My ex boyfriend from highschool always finds a way to contact me even if a year goes by somehow we reconnect. He tells me he loves me and that he cant leave me alone. He is highly manipulative in my opinion so should i break it to him harshly or just change my # or not answer his calls
2006-11-06 18:02:49 · 17 answers · asked by libra love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From a guys perspective and also one that is going through the same thing, be harsh, be rude, and most of all be upfront. I made that mistake of being the "nice guy" with my ex-wife and found that in the end I gained nothing and lost everything. After you tell him like it is, then change your number, for me it was the best thing I could have done. And if he continues to call you then you may need to take the next step and take legal action. Good luck, be strong, and don't let some bonehead get you down.
2006-11-06 18:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by dizzy721 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get dramatic...just tell him you've moved on. Calmly, quietly and as if you really feel very sorry for him; high school was fun, but reality is something you have to live now. Tell him you're interested in a different type of guy now and that he'll find the right girl if he lets go of the past and tries some new things. Wish him well and then hang up. No need to get nasty or shriek, just let him know he's wasting your time and his...
2006-11-07 02:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him in a calm but firm voice that you do not love him and when he constantly tries to contact you, you feel as if he is stalking you. tell him that since you have a whole different life now that you love, it will be best for him to leave you alone. Get a recorder and record whatever he says. If he does not give up and turns nasty, you may have to take legal steps but warn him about this before.
2006-11-07 02:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you break it too him right now and let him know in no uncertain terms you are not interested in him like that anymroe, change your phone number as well, make sure it is silent and make sure your friends know not to give out your number tell him if the harrasment continues you will have to let the authorities know he is harrasing you. Good luck with it
oh ps have a male friend there when you tell him in case he takes it badly!!
2006-11-07 02:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by ozi_nut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First get a voice recorder with a time, date and caller Id function on it. Make sure the data can be printed some how.Then simply file a police report for harrasment.The tape will be your proof.
2006-11-07 02:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop communicating with him! Each time you "reconnect" with him you send the message that you enjoy it. He wants nothing long term with you but he is using you as his b i t c h when he needs it. Sorry to put it that way. He is treating as an object of convenience for his enjoyment.
2006-11-07 02:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by Greg M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it to him harshly. If that doesn't work, change your number. If that doesn't work get a restraining order. But don't lead him on!
2006-11-07 02:08:33 · answer #7 · answered by NtheDark 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight with him...no laughing or giggling..or that will be a mixed signal.
Tell him to leave you alone and that you do not love him.
(if he dont leave you alone, then call the police and have him arrested on harrassment charges)..DO NOT tell him that you would do this.
And yes, change your phone number.
2006-11-07 02:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by iwish40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends- if you want him to keep calling you year round then dont answer his calls.... if you want him to NEVER call you again then be harsh with him. He is your ex for a reason, no need to keep him in your life. Tell him to move on and get over it!
2006-11-07 02:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by pinklipstiiick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he does it? if you like the reason there you go, If you don't, then be harsh but at least you gave him a chance and when time goes by you won't wonder why he tried to contact you... I hate when I regret things I didn't do
2006-11-07 02:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by lysa24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋