What should she do about it?
2006-11-06 17:47:14 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes - it does happen. Been there and done it. As painful as it is, you need to sort out which one has your best interests at heart, take into consideration if one is a new love and one is an older love, and really take a look to decide what attacts you to each individual and decide if it is something that down the road you'd still find attactive. It may hurt to let one go, but it is a lot easier than trying to balance two relationships.
You didn't mention if either guy returned the feelings or not. If one returns them and the other doesn't do yourself the favor and go for the guy that returns the feelings. You'll be in for a lot less hurt if you do so.
There are so many different levels of "love" that it makes a decision like this hard. But my best advice is to not act on a whim, flip a coin, or eenie meeny mine-y mo it. You deserve more than that.
Good luck
2006-11-06 17:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Tonya H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a soul-mate but the limit isn't only 1 per person. It's very normal to like 2 people at the same time so it's more than possible to love 2 people at the same time. You may have a very close relationship with both of them, and although it's hard, you have to pick one. Perhaps you can still keep your close friendship with the person you didn't choose, but you have to make a decision. Think about who you think you love more and who's friendship you're willing to risk IF it's worth the risk. Just don't lead them on because it wouldn't be fair to them, you certainly wouldn't like it if someone took you on a wild goose chase.
2016-05-22 06:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure a lot of people will say yes and in a way they can but it's not the same kind of love. As far as a romantic love NO. When a person has two love interests that makes them very selfish and only thinking about themselves and what makes them happy. When you truly love someone you put that person first and wouldn't consider hurting them by having another person in their (love) life. How would you feel if the person you loved seen someone else? Put yourself in their place.
2006-11-06 17:55:48 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I define being in love as giving yourself to one person. Then again truth can often be relative, I'm strictly a monogamist, but I don't have any room to judge polygamists. You should either decide which one you truly love, or love more or whatever. Polygamous relationships will only work out if both of the others don't mind sharing, I couldn't do it myself.
The simplest thing to do is choose one.
2006-11-06 18:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Rageling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe so. Neither do I believe a guy can love two women at the same time.
If you're in "love" with one, then there's obviously something about the other guy that captivates your imagination, but it's not love.
Perhaps you really need to do some soul-searching to figure yourself out.
2006-11-06 17:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its possible, its sad too. because if you really love them you dont want to hurt either of them. That happened to me, when i was 19 yrs old. It sucked, i had to let one know what was going on and stay with one. I ended up losing touch with one and married the other 3 years later. 3 years after that we seperated. i would still hear things about the other one, and i cant help but wonder what would have happened if i would have chose different. I dont regret my choice but to this day, i think of him often.
2006-11-06 18:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by Esme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every Girl is diffrent
If I were her I would stop Loving the 1 I love the least
2006-11-06 17:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are good at what you do you can have both of them without them finding out. but if you know yourself and you think you might get caught and cause problems then you choose the one you love the most and believe me there is always one that you love a tiny bit more than the other
2006-11-06 17:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by libra love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is possible and what I did was get away from them both for as long as it took to see who I really missed more.
2006-11-06 18:21:10 · answer #9 · answered by askhow1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its possible but see u gotta choose i know u dont want to but u have to cause alll u doing is hurting your self cause when they both find out u messing with tha both of them they gonna feel as though ur not true so they both gonna leave u and at tha end ur feeling gonna be hurt but then again **** stay with both **** men do it why cant we
2006-11-06 17:55:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋