What is the best way to praise a child for a job well done?

Question

This is at school and at home. He is a very good boy!

Answer 1

Don’t say “Good job” or reward with stickers, money, toys, or treats. If you do, he will turn into a praise and reward junkie. Instead, say things like “You did that by yourself! You worked on that for a long time! You must be so proud of yourself! Look how many colors you used on your painting! You can run super fast! You’re teacher must be so happy with you! You’ve made such nice friends!” Offer lots of love and positive attention. Be proud of yourself for a job well done!

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Answer 2

It depends. Usually, "Good job," or "I'm so proud of you," or perhaps even, "Wow! You're really smart (or a good helper or such a big boy)!" work pretty well for me and my son. If it's a really big deal like straight A's on a report card or a service award of some kind or another major accomplishment, some kind of reward is definitely in order. My mother used to take my brother and I to McDonald's and the wading pool on the other side of town if we did well at the end of the school year. We almost never did those things, so it really had an impact.

Answer 3

Ummm you can start by telling him that he is a good boy and he did a good job. Maybe give him a small sticker when he does a good job and when he gets 20 stickers he gets a small toy (like a matchbox car) or a special day at the park.

Answer 4

my sister in law has a board on her wall and she puts up smiley faces and at the end of the week her daughter gets $1 for each smiley face to spend on a new toy from the dollar store. Or her daughter has the choice to save the money up for something big she just bought a new teddy bear for her little brother for christmas. It took her a while to save up but she works extra hrad to get those little treats at the end of the week.

Answer 5

thats awesome, dont spoil him with treats everytime but reassure and praise him, maybe at the nd of the week let him pick something he'd like to do, a movie, minature golf, dinner out, friend over, buy him one of his fav books something like that. i wouldnt do it every single time or he will come to expect it, but congrats on doing an awesome job raising a great chid!

Answer 6

Give the child stickers and say good job give me five im so proud of you. My son loves when i say that. He gets so excited. i also if he has been been good all week and he does he chores he gets two dollars every two weeks if he is good. we get paid every two weeks that is why its only two weeks. Then he is able to buy himself a toy but he has to be good and do his chores. He loves that too. that makes him want to behave and he likes when he gets his money. He is 4 years old his chores are cleaning up toys. that could be for home for your child.

Answer 7

When my son is extra good I buy him something small or read him a special book (sometimes 2 or 3 times). I'll also let him watch his favorite TV shows or a movie.

When he's not good he loses toys/privileges. When he's good, he can earn them back.

Answer 8

Clap your hands, kiss him and say "Yeah"
I always did that and it builds up their self-esteem. Be very careful though bc one can overdo it and cause their child later in life overconfidence which can turn cocky. Trust me I know...keep in mind they grow into teenagers. Do all with a fine balance.
Prayer is the best thing you can do for him.

God Bless!

Answer 9

Have a small box full of cheap little toys and when he does something good, let him pick one. Or just tell him what a good boy he is and that you are proud.

Answer 10

Um, tell him "that was a job well done" or perhaps "good>while smiling<". Kids don't always need "things" as a reward. If you show them, they will learn to appreciate a smile and a compliment; and will gear their behavior towards things that please you.