I have a friend who's named Matt. Matt and I used to talk for hours every night, and every night he'd ask questions like, "what would you do if I kissed you?" One night, he told me flat out that he had a crush on me, and I told him I liked him too. He picked me up for breakfast, and we went out and played pool. but we weren't dating
he's graduated, and I'm a sohpomore. We've been talking again, and last night he said, "I couldn't make a move on you because I have too much respect for you." five minutes later, he said, "when you're 28 and i'm 31, we're gonna go to Las Vegas and get married."
now, I don't actually think we're getting married. he's sending me mixed messages. I'm going to his house to make dinner and watch a movie in a few days. We do date like things and as far as I know, he still has a crush on me and I have a crush on him. he's said many times that the only reason we're not dating is my age.
should I make a make a move, or wait for him to do something?
2006-11-06 17:41:52 · 13 answers · asked by Emmi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, right now he's 18 and I'm 15... that's just 3 years, though. and Matt knows I wouldn't have sex... yet he still calls like every other night and we talk for hours. I don't think that's what he wants, but you can never be sure. BIGGEST PROBLEM: I don't know what I'd do without him! I need him to at least be my friend, and I'm worried to screw that up... but this is driving me crazy, us not-dating all the time... it's insane and I'm confused
2006-11-06 17:55:14 · update #1
Continue getting to know each other. Don't rush anything. He's calling the shots so far. He thinks he's in control. He likes it. Just back off with the emotions for a bit...
2006-11-06 17:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ride it out or talk more about it. Ask him if it is your age why he hasn't made a move on you.
Remember though, once two get sexually involved you can never go back to being just friends. Meaning I would soak as much of the friendship up as I could before moving on to phase two. Sounds like you two have a great thing going. If the feelings are mutual, go with your gutt.
2006-11-07 01:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're being played. I don't see what your age has to do with anything. It's an excuse for him to remain uncommitted.
He's obviously in love with the idea of you two have a mutual crush on each other, but that's as far as he wants it to go.
He graduated and he's out of the HS circuit. I suggest that you cut this one short and have some fun with your own peer group.
2006-11-07 01:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it would be best to wait when you guyz are older... why make a move? what kind of move are you talking about? If you mean a sexual move .. are you legal? is he 18? he could get into trouble.. thats probly why he wants to wait....but.. no you shouldnt make a move just yet...you havent stated all the facts... right now it seems as your too young for him... and maybe you should find out if someone else is out there... you have your whole life ahead of you and there a gazillion great guyz out there, dont plan out your future of marriage just yet... live your life !!
2006-11-07 01:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by c t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the dust settles. In the meantime, don't limit yourself to him. I really don't know what that "I respect you too much" crap means (I've heard it a lot of times) but now I just don't put too much faith in it. I'd rather have a man who knows what he wants and actually does something to get it.
2006-11-07 01:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Trillian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your 28 and he's 31?
How old are you now?
You need to give more details.
2006-11-07 01:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by iwish40 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats with that 28 31 go to vegas deal. I had a man tell me that once..what the heck is that.....
2006-11-07 01:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by DOMINATUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he might get nervous but ask alot of questions find out whats going on with him
2006-11-07 01:49:43 · answer #8 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it girl!!!! if he already told you he like you and you know you like him....make the first move...he already told you he doesnt want to disrespect you...so you go first...I don't think you'll regret it....It's gonna eventually happen anyways...GO FOR IT!!!
2006-11-07 01:47:57 · answer #9 · answered by YourGSpot.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him. He may be more genuine person than you think.
2006-11-07 01:57:32 · answer #10 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋