some of my friend have regular sex with their partner before marriage, they looks very happy and pasonate to each other, I am scared it will last or not after marriage, please comment.
2006-11-06 17:30:41 · 34 answers · asked by sampita001 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes it will cause your love to reduce,
2006-11-06 17:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by debasis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is up to the individual. Some think sex before marriage can enhance their relationship while some also think sex before marriage really does reduce the romance after their marriage. For me, I think it reduce romance after marriage because when you already have sex with your partner before marriage for so long, he/she will already be so sick of the you. Thus after marriage, the sex life will be affected and so will the romance in a marriage. Well, you must know there are many things in life that you can spice up your love & romance after marriage too. Not only sex! You must cheer up a little & don't scare yourself, not all partners are like that, favourably to say, the minorities can still stay with their same partners for a whole lifetime. Most importantly, that depends so much of the person's character & good self-control ability. If a person is able to think correctly, once he/she is married, there will be a commitment and shall abide to the marriage rules. And strongly know and state its own status that there shall be NO infidelity or extra-marital affairs anymore. But sadly to say, seems like not many human beings can really understand this theory behind it. But we shall not let them bring us down. We should stick to our own concepts and beliefs that faithful is the word right here.
2006-11-06 18:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sex before marriage has nothing to do with whether people are happy after being married. Both people need to continue to make every effort to keep the romance alive and the relationship strong. That involves a lot more than sex, although that is part of a healthy relationship, it is not everything.
2006-11-07 01:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, sex before marriage is important. You need to know that you are compatible in all areas before you get married. If you wait until you are married before you have sex and then you find out you are not compatible, then you're stuck. One person will inevitably look elsewhere to get their needs met. However it does seem to work for some people to wait, but that is not true for all.
The sex and romance in your marriage go through waves. You may not be as passionate when you're older as when you're still in the newlywed phase, but hopefully you still have romance going on. That's just life. But if it dissipates as soon as you get home from your honeymoon, then those problems need to be addressed asap.
Sex before marriage will improve it, not deteriorate it.
2006-11-06 17:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my now husband had lots os sex before we married, but we did things a bit different. first- while we were dating, i made him wait until i felt it was the right time (3 months) to have sex. then a couple of days before the wedding, we went abstonent just for the sanctity of holy matramony. it was togh- he's a hot guy! but it was well worth it- the build up to the honemoon was nothing less than wonderful and it was such a special moment in time that it was like starting over. we have been married a couple of years now and still very much in love and happy with a ground rule to rock eachothers world at least 3x a week. we have not broken that rule to this day and our marriage is wonderful!
2006-11-06 18:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by iwantafignewton 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage! that means lot of not only sex. sex only 15 to 1 hours job, but rest of the time in a day what u will do, marriage mean love, honesty, caring each other, b4 sex or after sex in marriage nothing else, if u want to marry anyone just try to understand him how he is, is he relay love u or not or only love ur sexy body, if u think he only love ur sexy body, just leave him now, bcos he will marry u only for sex nothing else. and sex b4 marriage yes it reduce romance after married, bcos sex is the last position of love, see when u love with anyone what u hv done, u always think him in ur mind n fall in dream for all times, when u r in deep love that time u want hold his hand and hug and kiss, then what after few days later u need more, that more things is sex, actully a man when he is sex with any one that is the last position of love that i think bcos he got everything from that lady, so sex b4 marriage is relay reduce romance after marriage
2006-11-06 17:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by th_jr_kh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship does not last then you have to deal with that. It would depend on the two people involved whether or not they kept the romance going in their marriage. Both people would have to want it very much.
2006-11-06 17:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely!!But what are ur boundaries,do u wanna do it bcos ur frnds does or do u wanna b just u? Look, u cannot do something that u r scared of, especially something like that. If u decide 2 have sex b4 marriage,what is it that u'll b doing in ur honeymoon?Bcoz i think that's when u need to express ur love 2 each other in that way and commit to each other!!
My husband&I dated for nine yrs without touchings and you no what we both waited bcos we wanted everything to be perfect, and believe me it was more than that. Hewas the 1st in my life and i didn't want to do it b4 marriage!! we both sometimes felt like we waisting time but we were bound by our own rules which we set 4 ourselves. So I think u 2 need to no what u want & when/how do want it. if u feel &sure like u want to do it just do it but i would advise u 2 wait until u get married. LIKE I ALWAYS SAY, IT'S NOT EASY BUT IT'S WORTH IT! hate me now BUT thank me later!!
Gudluck!!
2006-11-06 18:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by keatlaretse y 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi Sampita, There's nothing wrong with trying out merchandise. This way you know that sex is not a problem.No i don't think it reduces romance after marriage. If anything it will improve your marriage.
Clowmy
2006-11-06 17:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On one hand it is a very romantic thought to wait until after marriage but on the other hand it is nice to know whether you're both sexually compatable before tying the knott..
I think it is really about personal preference, morals etc.
What if he was terrible in bed and you have a very high libido?
2006-11-06 17:34:46 · answer #10 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Premarital sex is sexual intercourse engaged in by a person or persons who are not yet married. It is generally used in reference to young people who it is presumed can and one day will be married, but who are in engaging sexual practices prior to their being socially sanctioned within a marriage.
Different cultures have various views on the morality of sex outside of marriage. Some view marriage before sex as completely optional; others strongly disapprove of sex outside marriage.
The term free love has been used since at least the nineteenth century to describe a social movement that rejects marriage, which is seen as a form of social bondage, especially for women. Much of the free love tradition has a civil libertarian philosophy that seeks freedom from State regulation and Church interference in personal relationships. In addition, some free love writing has argued that both men and women have the right to sexual pleasure.
While the phrase "free love" is often associated with promiscuity in the popular imagination, especially in reference to the counterculture of the 1960s and 1970s, historically the free love movement has not advocated multiple sexual partners. Rather, it has argued that love relations which are freely entered into should not be regulated by law. Thus, free love practice may include long-term monogamous relationships or even celibacy, but would not include institutional forms of polygamy such as a king and his concubines. Laws of particular concern to free love movements have included those that prevent an unmarried couple from living together, and those that regulate adultery and divorce, as well as age of consent, birth control, homosexuality, abortion and prostitution, although not all free lovers agree on these issues. The abrogation of individual rights in marriage is also a concern — for example, some jurisdictions do not recognise spousal rape, or treat it less seriously than non-spousal rape. Free love movements since the 19th century have also defended the right to publicly discuss sexuality, and have battled obscenity laws.
In the twentieth century, some free love proponents extended the critique of marriage to argue that marriage as a social institution encourages emotional possessiveness and psychological enslavement.
Free love became a prominent phrase used by and about the new social movements and counterculture of the 1960s and 1970s, typified by the Summer of Love in 1967 and the slogan "make love not war". Unrestrained sexuality became a new norm in some of these youth movements, leading certain feminists to critique the 60s/70s "free love" as a way for men to pressure women into sex; women who said "no" could be characterized as prudish and uptight.
In the 1980s, concerns over AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases tempered the promiscuity of the 1970s, but many of the sexual reforms advocated by earlier free love movements had become mainstream: legalisation of adultery, birth control, and homosexuality; personal freedom in choosing love and/or sex; and women's rights in general. Chastity, virginity, and subservience in marriage had much less power as social ideals for women.
Modern descendents of free love could be seen to include the polyamory and queer movements of the 1990s and contemporary sex radicals like Susie Bright, Patrick Califia and Annie Sprinkle. Though they don't often identify as free lovers, modern movements around the world against arranged marriage and forced marriage in South Asia, the Middle East, Africa and Eastern Europe share many of the same goals as the free love movement.
2006-11-06 17:33:46 · answer #11 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋