Me and my sister in law were really close before the seperation. She is younger. Her mom had a lot of problems while she was growing up, so I helped raise her. My husband and I were seperated for a few months. Now back together. What can I do to get her to let it go? It didn't involve her and my husband is over it too.
2006-11-06 17:26:39 · 11 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your husband probably cried on her shoulder when you two were apart, making you out to be the bad guy. I would suggest that you sit both him and her down together and sort it out. She needs to hear from your husband that you are back together, that he is happy about this, and that there are no hard feelings on anybody's part.
2006-11-06 17:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't talk to you try writing her a letter explaining that what happened between you and your husband has nothing to do with your relationship with her and no matter what you still care for her. How old is she? Did you do something to hurt her brother like have an affair? Her maturity might have a lot to do with it. If she is young it will take some time so be patient, if she older (out of high school) she could just be the kind of person that holds a grudge and there's not much you can do but wait and see if she comes around. If she doesn't come around just remember that it is your husband your with not her, but continue to treat her the way you always did such as sending her B-day cards etc.
2006-11-06 17:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to just keep working at it with small things, like offering a hand when you know she may need one. Or making her something that has obvious effort in it and presenting it to her as a peace offering. You could also try to talk to her about it and make her realise the problems you had with your husband did not include her and your husband has decided to move on so could she please consider letting you back into her life. It is probably something that will take time to fix and you will just have to keep chipping away at her till she gets over the hurt she is obviously feeling
2006-11-06 17:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are close to your family and someone hurts them it affects you you should let her know that what ever it was was a mistake and you love your husband and you want to make everything better i am sure she will understand if the two of you were close i am sure you want that back break the ice
2006-11-06 17:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats up to her to decide. As long as you did & said all that you had to in order to bring about peace, theres nothing more for you to do. Just be friendly to her.
Thats why I never get involved in other peoples relationships because when they get back together, you end up having mixed emotions about their decisions & you never have a say in it.
2006-11-06 17:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give her time. It probably felt like her parents split up sicne you raised her and all. Maybe get her in counciling. Time will heal just tell her if she has any problems tell her you are there to talk with her about anything she may feel like talking about.
2006-11-06 17:29:06 · answer #6 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely, it relatively is been 40 3 years for me and the pouting never stops. I basically bypass on with issues and quicker or later he starts speaking and appearing like a grown up back. My infants never understood why their father acted like that, because of the fact he does no longer refer to them the two while he replaced into in one in all his sulks. they're grown now and understand his issues stem from starting to be up in an abusive better half and youngsters. He replaced into never allowed to make any judgements for himself and on an analogous time as an person that trend from his mum and dad persisted. the two one in all his mum and dad are nevertheless residing immediately and as they choose greater help themselves they nevertheless attempt to regulate all factors of his existence. i might make it easier to realize to run. it relatively is too previous due for me.
2016-10-15 11:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and tell her how you feel. What happened with you and your husband is not her business though.
2006-11-06 18:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes jealous and you got to give her some time
2006-11-06 17:32:44 · answer #9 · answered by fatalbert167 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she may feel rejected by you, who knows if she is a teenager
2006-11-06 17:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋