My very, very close friend has voluntarily hooked me up with a guy that I am not attracted to physically, but we get along real well and have great conversations(which is more important to me). But, I have 4 kids already and my oldest son is 7. Our relationship is already starting to crumble even though he's so young. I'm finding he has trouble trusting me and most men. Now, I have an ex who is the father of another son that all of my kids adore and he wants to get back together with me. But, I myself and not happy in a relationship with him. Should I get back with him, date the other guy, or just stay off the dating scene all together?
2006-11-06 17:24:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dating w/kids & ex's in the mix is tough, you'll never be able to please everyone. Your romantic relationships should be put on the "back burner" for maybe the next 10 yrs or so, till the 7 yr old is going out on his own dates. Not to say you shouldn't date at all, just keep it light and don't involve the kids unless and untill you KNOW you have Mr. Right. And even then, think again... because apparently so far your "spidey senses" have not been working so well (no offense, I've been there!!) DO NOT go back to the man you already know you won't be happy with for the sake of the kids - you need your sanity to be a good mom...but do maintain a good relationship with him (not the romantic/sexual kind, the respectful/deep friendship type) I've never heard of any woman regretting making the kids her first priority. Good Luck!
2006-11-06 17:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by Auntie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, get on some form of birth control!! 4 kids is a lot for a single person to handle. I don't think you should compromise your happiness by going back to the ex that wants to get back with you. If it's not working out with the other guy, dump him. Focus on you and your kids for a while. Don't worry about guys so much right now. Your kids are so young and it wouldn't be good for them to have you bring different men in and out of their lives right now. Take things slow with any man that you want to date, and don't even think about letting the new guy meet your kids until you have at least dated him for 3 months.
2006-11-06 17:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not get back with the other guy unless you really love him and this other guy who you are not that attracted to I don't think you should date him either. Just wait to find someone you love talking to and looking at it's possible and worth it. good luck
2006-11-06 20:01:45 · answer #3 · answered by askhow1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋