How do I choose?

Question

I'm 20yrs old I have a 2 yr old daughter and my boyfriend whom I've been off and on with for a year and a half has gottin himself put in jail- I love my boyfriend, and I've promised to wait for him- He's been there for about 3 months already and still has anywhere from 3 to 9 months to go- So I've met some one he's younger than me, but an amazing guy I'm interested in getting to know him better- He knows about my boyfriend and has asked me to make a choice, because he wants to have a relationship with me- I so confused I love my BF- but I've never even dated, I've always been in a "serious" relationship, I'm only 20, it'd be nice to have a little fun for once. My BF has asked me to marry him- So for me to end it with him, he would be heart broken. And I'm not sure I'm ready to leave him- I don't know any advice is great at this piont

Answer 1

You are only 20,don't make the mistake of not dating!But this guy has no right to tell you to choose!If your boyfriend really love you he won't make you stay with him just so he can be happy!You need you know who you are and what you want in life!Dating is what helps know know what you want in a marriage!You come first and so does your baby!You are not married yet!Good Luck!God Bless!

Answer 2

you've been trying to make a good relationship for a year and a half with a man that's now in jail. obviously the relationship is not great or it wouldn't be off and on. but not every relationship is great untill the two involved have a chance to settle in together and let things get a rhythm.. you say you love your boyfriend, that means you loved him when he went to jail, enough to promise that you'd wait.. rite now you're lonely and you're getting attention from another man. that's all it is. i don't suggest starting one thing, untill you finish the other. don't let the new guy influence your relationship with your boyfriend.. if you do marry him, i guarantee there will be at least one more time after you're married that you'll get serious attention from a man that's not your husband. as a woman, you have to be strong and dedicated enough to say, thanks for the compliment, but i'm married. this is the same situation. you know how your life will be with your boyfriend. if you can handle the off and on, or if you think it's going to be steady when he gets out, then be true to your promise. the thing is, you do'nt want to leave your boyfriend for another guy. if he's not who you want to be with because of other reasons, then break up with him. leave him only if you can honestly tell yourself that you would leave him if there were no other man giving you attention and trying to get you. good luck

Answer 3

There are three major adult areas to a well rounded life. (1) career (2) learning how to be single and (3) learning how to be a couple and raise children.. You have a child already and with her comes the responsibility to her and society as a whole for you to raise her to be a responsible adult..
- I would recommend you focus on the single part.. in time you will get tired of it and want to settle into family life... Try to pick someone responsible.. Until then, enjoy each day as it comes.. and take care of your child.

Answer 4

You need to decide whether or not you want to date and have some fun or wait on your boyfriend and settle down with him. It is better for you to make the decision you will be happy with now instead of later.

Answer 5

You are 20. you need to date other people try different things. if it's meant for you and your now bf to be together then you will. But the most important thing is to listen to your heart and trust your instincts you can't go wrong with that.

Answer 6

Interpersonal relationships are social associations, connections, or affiliations between two or more people. They vary in differing levels of intimacy and sharing, implying the discovery or establishment of common ground, and may be centered around something(s) shared in common. The study of relationships is of concern to sociology, psychology and anthropology.

1) Contact:
a) Uncertainty reduction - through eye contact, identification, opening disclosure, etc.
b) Perceptual - notice how a person looks at the other and their body language.
c) Interactional cues - nodding, maintaining eye contact, etc.
d) Invitational - encouraging the relationship (e.g. asking if they want to meet up later for coffee)
e) Avoidance strategies - if one person discloses and the other does not, minimal response, lack of eye contact, etc.

2) Involvement
a) Feelers - hints or questions (ex. asking about family)
b) Intensifying strategies - further the relationship (ex. meeting old friend, bringing the other to meet family, becoming more affectionate, etc.)
c) Public - seen in public together often (ex. if in a romantic relationship, may be holding hands)

3) Intimacy -very close, may have exchanged some sort of personal belonging or something that represents further commitment. (ex. may be a promise ring in a romantic relationship or a friendship necklace symbolizing two people are best friends)

4) Deterioration - things start to fall apart. In a romantic relationship, after six months, people are out of what is sometimes referred to as the "honeymoon stage" and start to notice flaws. The way this is dealt with determines the fate of the relationship.

Types of interpersonal relationships
Kinship relationships, including family relationships, being related to someone else by blood (consanguinity), e.g. fatherhood, motherhood; or through marriage (affinity), e.g. father-in-law, mother-in-law, uncle by marriage, aunt by marriage.
Formalized intimate relationships or long term relationships through law and public ceremony, e.g. marriage and civil union.
Non-formalized intimate relationships or long term relationships such as loving relationships or romantic relationships with or without living together; the other person is often called lover, boyfriend or girlfriend (not to be confused with just a male or female friend), or significant other. If the partners live together, the relationship may be similar to marriage, and the other person may be called husband or wife. In Scottish law they are so regarded by common law after a time. Long term relationships in other countries are often erroneously called common law marriages, although they have no special status in law. Mistress is a somewhat old fashioned term for a female lover of a man who is married to another woman, or of an unmarried man. She may even be an official mistress (in French maîtresse en titre); an example is Madame de Pompadour.
Soulmates, individuals who are intimately drawn to one another through a favorable meeting of the minds and who find mutual acceptance and understanding with one another. Soulmates may feel themselves bonded together for a lifetime; and, hence, they may be sexual partners but not necessarily.
Casual relationships, relationships extending beyond one night stands that exclusively consist of sexual behavior, the participants of which may be known as friends with benefits when limited to considering sexual intercourse or sexual partners in a wider sense.
Platonic love is an affectionate relationship into which the sexual element does not enter, especially in cases where one might easily assume otherwise.
Friendship, which consists of mutual love, trust, respect, and unconditional acceptance, and usually implies the discovery or establishment of common ground between the individuals involved; see also internet friendship and pen pal.
Brotherhood and sisterhood, individuals united in a common cause or having a common interest, which may involve formal membership in a club, organization, association, society, lodge, fraternity or sorority. This type of interpersonal relationship also includes the comradeship of fellow soldiers in peace or war.
Partners or coworkers in a profession, business, or a common workplace.
Participation in a community, for example, a community of interest or practice.
Association, simply being introduced to someone or knowing who they are by interaction.

Answer 7

you need to take time out for you and you have to remember that you have a child and that you can't only think about you but what ever makes you and your child happy then do that and you can't keep meeting these jail birds grow up

Answer 8

you may just be lonely you have been with out your bf for some time now so now you are tempted but it would be better for you to check out options now then to wait till you get married and cheat

Answer 9

Do you really need someone to tell you to drop the inmate and grab the new offer? Do it.

Answer 10

just do what your heart tells u to do..