Sticky situation here. I am in the process of a divorce. I ran into my former ex bf from 5 years ago and we hooked up. Here is where it gets sticky. His house burned down shortly after we fought about nothing. He moved in with his ex wife and it's been purely like roommates. His ex and I are like friends. So, we've been seeing each other for a while now. We made a mistake and went too far, from which I could be pregnant. He called me later on that day and said that he will do whatever I want, including moving in together. I think he's already started that, becuase he phoned me saying that his ex turned out to be jealous and that she had given him three weeks to move out. He wants this to go as smoothly as possible, so he asked me not to call for a couple of weeks to avoid any more trouble. I know for a fact they are not doing anything from knowing his ex so well and having gotten close. The three weeks thing, is he really working no getting out or is he running?
2006-11-06 17:07:39 · 6 answers · asked by Ding Dong 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Not sure about that either. I have a history of not being able to trust, and being abandoned by those I care for most. In the past year and a half, the only people I was ever close to died one right after the other. The last one recently died October 15th due to brain cancer. I think I have abandonment issues as well, but am still not able to see past them to what I truly feel.
2006-11-06 17:16:47 · update #1
There is some history behind us. Before I left, I was 3 months pregnant. At 4 months gestation I lost that baby. It died inside due to cord problems and I was forced to get a D and C. He didn't find this out until about 2 months ago, when we rehooked back up. Now he knows I may be pregnant. It seems everytime we seem to get serious, there is that possibility. I've known him for years.
2006-11-06 17:35:45 · update #2
Give him the benefit of the doubt and wait the three weeks out. It's not such a long time anyway. He might need time to sort out his living situation and this new development in his life.
2006-11-06 17:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by Trillian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like he's not playing straight with you, and I'm speaking from experience, as I had a similar situation, where the guy I had an affair with said he needed two weeks to go over things. It didn't happen, the guy and his ex moved and I couldn't contact him or anything. I too had a baby on the way. I carried to full term only to have the baby die a week after he was born. I was so stressed that my health failed miserably.
Don't be misled by a wolf in sheep's clothing, if your pregnant think of your baby first before trying to get hold of the married man. It's not worth it, these guys are a dime a dozen and what he did to you, probably he will do to his wife also.
Judging by your post, consider WHY he needs THREE weeks to think about it and WHY can't you phone him if he wasn't acting the married man? Also WHY would his so-called ex be JEALOUS, if he wasn't being her husband all over again?
Seriously I would cut my losses now before any other damage to your self-esteem, as it sure ain't worth the heart-ache! God bless.
2006-11-07 01:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by trieghtonhere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be thinking about myself right now if i were you. not what your "ex boyfriend/maybe boyfriend again" is doing. are you wanting a baby? planning on carrying out the pregnancy? if not don't sit around waiting. if so ... you best start making plans to change your life as things are gonna get more complicated and more expensive (and hopefully more fulfilling and joyful) quite soon. you need to find a good doctor asap. a healthy you makes a healthy baby.
him not wanting to hear from you for a couple of weeks (?!) doesn't sound promising to me. you might be on your own so maybe it's best that you think and act as if in fact you are. allow your family and/or friends give you what support they can.
i hope everything works out for you. take care.
2006-11-07 01:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by nebtet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is planning his way out of this situation. If not, then why does he need three weeks? Whatever he told you, he was just trying to make you believe he is doing the right thing. If his ex and you are close, then what do you think of secretly talking to her, explain your situation. talk woman to woman. maybe she knows what is going on
2006-11-07 01:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by arlandi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good way to run someone off is by constantly showering them with doubt.....
Give him the space and let him do what he must on his end.....
Sounds like he is only trying to keep peace... But, it is what must be done..... If you should find that he has gone beyond the boundaries which he stated would be, then have a talk with him and tell him where you stand.....
If he is bothered by that then he has broken his orginal agreement by which you have given him by letting him have his space......
Be cool... and wait.... but do not doubt... yet!!!.....
Point is... you give them what they ask, that is called faith.... but if they break that faith, they have dishonored their truth as lie......
Your sister,
Ginger,
gmcfayden@yahoo.com
2006-11-07 01:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is suspition making it more or less likly?
2006-11-07 01:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋