I have a BF that I love very much but I hope to keep in touch with an old friend that I have special feelings for..he knows I have a BF and I told him I couldn't talkto him because my BF said I couldn't and because I love my BF so much I must listen to my BF I ask him to let me know if he can understand but he hasn't answered me. I keep trying to get an answer from him..why is this wrong I just care about our friendship nothing more..why do some people think I am playing with fire? Is there anything wrong with being his friend?
2006-11-06 17:05:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think the guy wants to me to be his GF so whats the problem?
2006-11-06 17:09:38 · update #1
Do you think he doesn't want trouble with my BF thats why he won't answer me?
2006-11-06 17:19:47 · update #2
No. And he needs to trust you! If not, move on. I am a firm beleiver that every woman should have back-up men in their lives.Those are men that are just friends, but always make you feel great because they like you!
2006-11-06 17:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by life coach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is way o.k. for a guy to have ladies that are friends and vice-versa for the ladies. However, there is a "friendship" line.. Furthermore, this line is different for each of us.. generally speaking if the guy you're with has a problem with something, listen to him.. He isn't telling you about the problem for nothing.
The answer you seek is in defining infidelity..
infidelity: there is the agreed upon physical side (that would be the common use of "cheating"); however there is also emotional and attention infidelity.
By keeping strings to past boyfriends and especially x-lovers, you are being deceitful with your current boy... If you don't care that's one thing, but if you do care - take heed.. Most of us guys will not tolerate infidelity on any front.
Keep it up and you will lose the current guy..
If your feeling are that strong for the past guy maybe that's where you should be...
- Most of us are well aware of the ladies that have a lot of past lovers hanging on.. We see it as (1) keeping the options open and (2) there will be no commitment to me..
- If we care (are interested in the long haul) we wouldn't wast much time with her.. On the other hand, if we don't really care if it lasts or not, we'll just enjoy whatever time there is.. That would also mean no commitment from us.
2006-11-06 17:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex. Doesn't your BF have any female friends? I'd find it hard to believe that he doesn't. Not knowing your age makes it a little hard to answer the question, people in grade or high school might not be mature enough to handle it where more mature people should be able to unless their insecure or their doing something they shouldn't and trying to pass the guilt on to their partner. And you should really think about this relationship if your not a teen or younger, nobody needs a controlling partner no matter how much you love them. That is not a healthy relationship.
2006-11-06 17:15:17 · answer #3 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok being friends. YOUR BF IS TOO CONTROLING!!
But you are a great gf and respecting your bf's wishes.
Just make sure that if you are to be friends with another guy, you don't have feelings for him. And try not to just hang out alone with the guy. Let your bf know when you talk to you male friends, and let him see/hear some of your convos. Even let the boys get to know each other a bit.
2006-11-06 17:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by bluecymbals04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up girl, this friend of yours wants more then you are willing to give. He obviously does not care about your friendship the way you do. You need to move on with the committed relationship you are in and just write off the other guy his loss at your friendship. Sorry guys are like this but that is just the way it is.
2006-11-06 17:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by redondo69 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might not be so bad if your current bf was involved in some way,like if you wanted to meet up with the old bf for a drink or something but i wouldn't push this too far it might ruin what you have now!
2006-11-06 17:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told your boyfriend that you were not going to keep in touch with the other male friend then why are you calling him. You need to work out things like this with your boyfriend.
2006-11-06 17:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a guy is your friend he must have other motives like wanting to get into your pants. Learn!
2006-11-06 17:07:49 · answer #8 · answered by lvillejj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will eventually become a issue between you and your boyfriend. Stop it now before your boyfriend leaves you.
2006-11-06 17:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must not be happy. i think you shoul leave your bf and your other friend start all over and sty with one guy.
2006-11-06 17:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by zenasrager 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋