virgin 'till death?

Question

i'm 18 and for some strange reason i never want to lose/give my virginity to a man. i do have sexist feelings towards them and plan on sticking to my "virgin 'till death" plan and i'm happy about it. what the hell is wrong with me?

i have thought about this for a looooooooooooong time. (by the way, i'm no church-going, jesus preaching girl either.)

Answer 1

Maybe your are a lesbian - its your life and your choices, if you never have sex with either a man or a women then you really don't know what you are missing, but at only 18 you have a long time (i hope) to go before you die, so there is always time to change your mind if you so choose.

Answer 2

First of all, ignore every ignorant son of a ***** who tells you you're a freak/nutjob or whatever. Secondly, ignore the similar bastards who say you should be a nun. If someone doesn't have a helpful answer, I don't understand why they post anything at all. For some reason people feel hostile towards vigins, and I think it's because they're jealous, because you haven't made the foolish mistakes that they have.

To be a nun, you would have to be of the catholic faith. And you didn't say you wanted to restict yourself from everything, you just said you weren't interested in sex.

There's nothing wrong with you at all. It's not fair for someone to say someone will sweep you off your feet, though, because life isn't always sugar petals and rose cubes...

Some people simply aren't interested in sex. Plain and simple.

If you decide you're a lesbian, however, having sex with a woman the first time still counts as losing your virginity. The rule is you are chaste until you have sex, in general.

I really don't blame you for being put off of sex in this day and age. With the way men treat women and the diseases and the general dirtiness of it all (not to mention the social drama that comes with it), I'm surprised, that I even bothered.

I must say, though to :' i do have sexist feelings towards them (men)' not all men are horrible. Most of them are, but there are plenty of men who are just like the fairy tales. I wouldn't say that if I didn't know it for a fact, I know several... My husband being one of them.

Well the point is, you're not a freak, and I don't blame you, and IGNORE the losers that are telling you destructive things. They're ignorant and really shouldn't be replying to your question anyway.

Answer 3

If it's right for you, there is nothing wrong with it. However, I would recommend two things:
1) Talk to a psychiatrist or a counselor about your sexist feelings. They may have roots in something bigger that should be addressed before it becomes unmanageable.
2) Revisit this idea in five or ten years. Ideas we had when we were young sometimes grow stale in the light of age. I'm not saying that holding on to your virginity is wrong (it's a good thing); but, it just may be that you haven't found the right person (it may not necessarily be a man) to give it to.

Good luck with everything.

Answer 4

Maybe you are just scared that some guy will use u for it and just leave after. I bet if u find the right guy who will respect you and give u reason to have some hope for the male gender you will be ok.I believe that everyone has a soulmate.
Im a virgin also but im waiting till marriage, believe me when u find true love it will change the way you feel about the world in general. It will be a monumental moment. Just dont close your soul off to it completely

Answer 5

"Strange reason''. "I am happy about it". "What the hell is wrong with me". You're sure, but not so sure are you? Methinks you have nothing nothing to worry about (except the sexist feelings part, which you ought to talk to someone about - just to see if comes from past experiences of self or others you know/love, so it may be corrected - there are good/bad men or women, everywhere, thats all).
As for sex, you'll probably fall in love with a man or woman (I dont believe losing virginity should be tied to the physical alone so same sex sex should count!), and you'll find out its not so bad after all..... it can be wonderful actually. Cheers.

Answer 6

You may be making a big deal out of nothing. After you have sex you'll see its no big deal. Another thing is that you could have a distrust in men for what a family member or another man in your life did to you. I guess it could be alot of things, maybe you like chicks? You need to explore your self more to find out. The whole point in living is to experience things and enjoy life and possibly have a family some day. The whole furthering your race type of thing. Average life span is like 70's? I think.. so you have 50 more yrs to have sex or not, every year that goes by might get more weird for you and build some kind of phobias and complex's and then you'll need a shrink or something.

Answer 7

There is nothing wrong with that. It is your personal prefrence and decision, and is very respectable. You never have to if you don't want to, but the thing is, you can always change your mind later, but you cannot undo it after it's done. You're 18, and you might not a found, or want a guy you want, someday you might, or not. I personally think you're smart, even if you don't change your mind. you probably stress just a bit less than most people that relates to sex. Nothing is wrong with you, and don't let anyone let you believe otherwise.

Do everything you do for YOU, and you should only live for yourself, not other. If you're happy, then I must say congratulations. Stick to your guns.

Answer 8

Nothing is wrong with you!!! Because you are only 18, you probably have not yet met the man you would want to "give your virginity to". On the other hand, you may never find such a man. No matter! If you are happy, that is all that matters!!

Answer 9

Hey! I certainly don't think theres anything wrong with you, but you are still young and the choices we make at 18 may not suit us as we get older. In time you may meet the right person with whom you fall head over heels with and thats the next step. If in 10 years you feel the same, then so what? It's your body and your life and you never know you may meet someone who feels the same as you. Good luck

Answer 10

nothing - you're strong and i hope you stay that way! if you have morals, you should stick with them - but hopefully the sexist thing will pass with time. if you're happy, then nothing is wrong with you. if you're questioning what's wrong with you, then maybe you're not happy and you should think about your decision. there are lots of other people like you who want to remain a virgin till death.