if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
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and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
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i should also add that she has been calling/texting him since the begginning of july . . . he tried to get her back for 2 months after she broke up with him. . . they broke up for no reason . .. she just told him she wanted to date around .. . . and she texted him on what would have been there two year anniversary and reminded him of it
2006-11-06 16:43:28 · 7 answers · asked by lbsb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she wants him back.if she wanted to just date around then there is still room for him in the future but it sounds like he has clued onto that,that's why he isn't responding. he might just have enough of this mind game she's playing
2006-11-06 16:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, tell her that you don't like her contacting him all of the time. You have a right to know what she is doing, and if it hurts you, let her know. She may still be in denial that they broke up, and sadly, you may just be a rebound. You need to sit her down and ask some serious questions. If she really has feelings for you she will understand your concern, if not, then you need to find a girl with less baggage.. Good luck!
2006-11-07 00:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she's ready to give up on him and accept you, or if she would rather move on -- because you aren't going to put up with her chasing her ex any more. Some girls feel more "wanted" or "needed" if they keep a line open to their past boyfriends. Girls are more emotional and it's hard for them to just turn their back and go. Sometimes they need a little kick, so give her one by having her make the choice.
2006-11-07 00:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Rainfog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's trying hard to get his attention... either to make his jelouse, or to create drama. either way, she's wrong. espically if she's hideing it from you (and yes, if she isn't telling you she's hiding it, and if she's hiding it, there is a reason) she could have feelings for him, but mostly i'd bet that she wants him to still have feelings for her so she can feel like she's more important (to him and probably everyone else she knows) than she really is. it sounds to me like she's one of those women who have to have outside attention to feel unique and special. i'd suggest saying to her " i think it's time for you to stop contacting your ex, he's not talking to you, take the hint so we can get on with our relationship without him being in the way". just say it. go ahead and have the argument. it needs to be had anyway. arguments are a way to solve problems. i feel like once you've commited yourself to someone, you should not be offended by a small amount of snooping. i think everyone wants security in a relationship and doubt is a justifyable reason to read a few emails. when u do talk about it... LISTEN TO HER... don't argue for the sake of arguing, try to learn about her and accept what she's telling you as truth. he obviously isn't going to show up tomorrow and take her away from you, he's over her and from the looks of it, he doesn't want anything to do with her at all. you may want to try to figure out why that is. did she freak out on him, is she a super drama queen once she's comfortable in a relationship.. learn about her. the best way to do that is to go to her honestly and ask her what you want to know. tell her what you want her to know (that it upsets you) and ask her if she can help you think of ways to get through this together. good luck
2006-11-07 01:03:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, she wants him back for sure. Tell her goodbye, but to come back when she emotionally ready for a relationship.
2006-11-07 00:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay, i didnt read whole of your question, honestly it's toooooo long! from what i have read, she still has feelings for him...she is with you coz he doesnt want her back.
2006-11-07 00:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants him back, leave her...
2006-11-07 00:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋