whats going on here ladies?

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ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .

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21 minutes ago
when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone

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1 day ago
her messages have said . . she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . even though she does know why and just stupid little things to try to get me to respond . . . like u said u would be there for me and stuff like that

Answer 1

sounds to me like she is trying to string you along and keep you at arms length.....don't let her.

She is fully aware she is dating someone you know, that you don't like, and she is trying to hold on to the past and the future at the same time.

Move on with your life....don't reply let her figure out her mistake on her own, one day she will regret it and by that time you will have met someone who wants you for you :)

Answer 2

How rude. How can she expect you to be friends with her after all that! I think the first answer you got was right, she's trying to keep her options open. Sounds like she wants everything to be on her terms. If I were you, I wouldn't put up with that. It may be hard to do, but tell her exactly how you feel and then leave it at that, try to move on. Thats not a healthy relationship or friendship.

Answer 3

She wants you to be romantic and tell her stuff like... "Oh baby, you are the only one" and " I miss you and want to still be with you." If she just wanted to be your friend she wouldn't have reminded you of your anniversery... She's doing a dumb test that girls do to see how far you would go to get her back. Some girls don't realize that most of that is just movies... Even though my boyfriend is very romantic. She wants you to make the "Big Gesture" If you want her, than tell her how much your miss her and how you want to be with her and stuff... but if you don't, than just move on. You just need to sort out your wants and needs.

Answer 4

MMMM, Is her name Liise, LOL

I had this exact scenario and she send me e-mails and called my my house for years. Always saying she was in town and wanted to meet me to just have a drink etc, after the first two times she didn't show I ignored everything she tried. The last I heard from her was 3 months ago, she is due to call me or e-mail me again, LOL

If I were you, don't answer or communicate with her anymore, work on the future and she can't pollute your mind, don't let her rent space in your mind.

Answer 5

Speaking from a recent discovery of my own 3 year relationship that never did feel quite right.
1) There are ladies that like variety in men.
- Their M/O is to remain friends and thereby "leave the door open" just as fallback I guess.
- In my case their were pleanty of x-boyfriends around all the time and she definetly acted differently towards me when they were around.
2) My advice... LET IT GO.. ALLOW YOURSELF TO HAVE "CLOSURE" ON THE RELATIONSHIP.. Just get on with your life and continue to ignore her.
Note: her staying in contact with you is intentional and is meant to not allow you to have closure. That would be part of the plan.
- good luck

Answer 6

sorry to peak ill of her but it seems like it makes her feel good to have men constantly prying over her. she obviously wants her cake and eat it too! She clearly loves to play games and unfortunately she has decided to involve you! She definitely needs a confidence boost and feels she can get it from you. the only other thing i can think of is that she is keeping you on the back burner in case things dont work out while shes "dating around". I hope u do not allow yourself to be put on the back burner!

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Answer 8

She messed up. She knows she missed out on a good thing with you. She probably compares that guy to you. (i've been there done that). I mean if your willing to let one bad thing ruin all the good times you guys had (or hadn't had) to go for it. If not set new rules she has to follow to gain your heart again.

Answer 9

You are not responding so she thinks your not interested. Make her chase you. Maybe she realizes she has made a mistake and she just doesn't want to admit it.

Answer 10

i say we can't be friend with someone we once loved or lusted. she's not happy with the one she's with and that not your fault. she is trying to get to you and not have a space between her boyfriends. (since she does'nt want to e alone) don't play the game friend!