how do you know if he really loves you, and its not just pity or being nice/kind?

Question

if he acts like he cares but he just doesnt say the right things...how to read between the lines? :)

well..the thing is hes 7 continents away from me ..we talk mostly through msn and weve been doing so since 2002..intermittently though

Answer 1

A long-distance relationship is a relationship between people who are physically far apart. Typically they are dating or married.

Some reasons for long-distance relationships are:
They met through a dating service and live far apart.
They met in an Internet community, such as a forum or multiplayer online game.
They met while one or both was on vacation.
They used to live close together, but one has since moved away (e.g., job, college, military).

Trust between the two parties is a key requirement for a successful long-distance relationship. Either party may be engaging in social activities which, under usual circumstances, could lead to the forming of a relationship. For example, one party may go out with friends or colleagues from work. These colleagues may very well include single persons interested in a relationship. For them it may appear that the long-distance relationship is 'weak' and not substantially important. It requires each partner to learn to trust the other. Of course, the same can be said of regular relationships as well.

Long-distance relationships can be successful when both partners make efforts to visit each other. Discussing possible times to visit, and planning these "vacations" together can assist with strengthening the relationship. Furthermore, it can help build trust.

However, it is important to remember that the success of a long-distance relationship can be aversely affected by the length of time the couple is apart. Since an indefinite amount of time apart is a key feature shared by all long-distance relationships, it can be argued that LDRs are considerably more challenging than regular relationships. This makes it all the more important to keep open lines of communication with one another.

Answer 2

Well some men don't say the right things when they care. I happen to have been born with my foot in my mouth.

Lots of guys who do always say the right things don't actually care-- they've just practiced saying the right things over and over!

Answer 3

Give him a gap. Don't call first, let him be the one to call and if he asks why he hasn't heard from you, tell him you where a bit busy then ask him out for drinks or something. If he doesn't call, then you'll know. Whatever you do, never give him reason to think you're desperate.

Answer 4

He will open doors for you. Introduce you to his friends. Hold your hand while looking into your eyes. Listen to you.