I have problems communicating...?

Question

I have all these pent-up emotions and problems that I need help with - but the problem is, I can't talk to anyone about them. I feel as if I can only talk to someone if I trust them, but I have severe trust issues because of things in the past. I'm trying to build up the courage to talk to my Dad about things - such as how I think I might be bipolar, how unsupported/unappreciated I can feel, and a whole range of other things - but I can't bring myself to open my mouth, and even if I -do- initiate a conversation, I sit there debating in my head whether to talk or not, doing it for so long that I lose my chance. Any one have any suggestions? =(

Answer 1

Now the thing is that I think that you might need to get a therapist. Reason being that it's always good to have someone whom you don't really know, and who would be impartial but still willing to listen to you. One of my very good girlfriends (she confides a lot in me) has a therapist, because she is studying to become a social worker. In addition, the great thing about it is that it is covered by insurance, so if you do have insurance, you might well be in luck. It would be easier for you to express yourself to people you don't know than to those you know and love. (see how you were able to say all that on Yahoo?? that alone should prove it to you)

Anyway, good luck with that, and I hope you'll be able to overcome your issues.

Answer 2

Blog my friend BLOG your little butt off. Do it anonymously if you must. It is great therapy. And on the plus side, once your feelings are "down on paper" you can work up the courage to let your pops read them. You seem to be a very literate person, I believe writing is your vehicle whether you know it or not. It has done wonders for me, and it only took two of three times of blogging what was in me before I opened up and put it out there for the public to see. Friends, family, total strangers. Check me out if you want. http://blog.myspace.com/ryllflsh You will be suprised at the therapy it provides. Good Luck. If you need anything else message me from in here I don't mind at all.

Answer 3

I've training as a counselor, I've seen people transform from a depressed state of mind to become confident, trusting appropriately. It's probably not a good idea to speak to your Dad about your issues - he may deny them. You need to find someone you can trust. Perhaps someone from a Church who is also a psychologist. You have to know this: even Christians can fall into deception but they are usually genuine helpers; in any relationship, if a counselor is genuine, is trained, and prays for him/herself against temptations, it is likely the relationship will be a morally intimate one, so close that the counselor realises one day she/he will need to know you are healthy enough to leave him/her to go on your chosen path again. Be prepared even for this parting; a counselor in touch with him/herself will likely feel the pain too but you will know by that time, this person has earned your trust, a feeling of gain/loss both at the same time, a secure feeling that goes with you wherever you are.

I pray you will take the steps to find out whom you can talk to face to face at least for a few years. Take your time to research churches, or if you can afford it, private clinicians who are also Christian.

Answer 4

Talk to me online. I'm no therapist but I've been told I'm good with helping people out in these kinds of situations. Plus, I most likely live thousands of miles away from you, so it's not like I can go blab to everyone about your problem and it really mattering. I know how you feel, to. I've had the same kinds of problems. I can't tell my parents certian things, even when I really want to, so I just sit there and ponder about what to do. As far as your bi-polar issue is concerned, you probably feel trapped, alone and maybe even kind of scared right? I feel that way to, because I'm suffering from depression and thoughts of suicide. So, I can kind of relate to you with that as well. Anyways, if you want to talk, give me a hollar on Windows Live Messenger or Yahoo or AIM. My addresses are [e-mail], (windows) theresurrection777 (yahoo) and TheRealGBKoolio (AIM).

Answer 5

i know where you're coming from with the trust issues because of the past...i have the same problem...but the thing i've learned is that you just have to do it...you can't debate it...just say it...i can't tell anyone without trusting them and i really only trust on person...if you can't say it...then try writing it to your dad and ask that he write you back...that way you can get your thoughts out and communicate without having to look at him or try and explain...sometimes things are easier explained on paper anyway...and you can get the help that you need...i would also try counseling...that's what i had to do to start trusting ppl and it's a hard thing...but you can't go through life without trusting people..email me if you want to talk more...

Answer 6

you probably need to seek professional help and you can't relate
if you don't take the first step ....maybe talking to yourself about how a positive encounter might go way before the time comes and reinforcing this in your mind might help get you over the threshold.....

Answer 7

so talk to a counseler, there neutral the only there to help you and if you need to vent they all ways lend a ear to seak into so you shold look into that

Answer 8

It takes 2 to have a relationship. while you are the only one attempting, seeing how he suggested "you have til August." basically tell him "See ya" and locate somebody you may connect with.

Answer 9

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