Do we exchange christmas or chanukah? I want to do something special to show that I respect his faith and religion...this is our first holiday season together and I want to make it special
2006-11-06 15:52:05 · 20 answers · asked by Zeasypop 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have personal experience with this issue.
I offer the following suggestions to you:
There are four dynamics here...You, Your boyfriend, Your Family and his Family.
Try this: He will give you a Christmas Gift, You will give him a Hanukkah Gift.
You can visit with his family and he can visit with your family.
In this way, each person maintains their own identity and customs. No pressures to Celebrate the other persons Holiday.
If you all agree to this in the beginning, there will be no hurt feelings and no one should be offended.
Good Luck and Happy Holidays in advance
2006-11-06 16:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mav 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say that you should learn as much as you can about Chanukah, both from him and on your own. Give him gifts for both holidays, maybe 8 little gifts for Chanukah and then a main present for Christmas. Have him over to bake Christmas cookies or to decorate the tree, and share your holiday.
edit: I can't remember how many days of Chanukah there are. I feel like such an idiot right now. pardon my ignorance.
2006-11-06 16:01:37 · answer #2 · answered by Psyche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind your boyfriend of the Jewishness of Jesus. Remind him that Christ likely celebrated Chanukah. He can give you Christmas presents, and you can get him Chanukah gifts. Respect his faith by occasionally attending Shabbat services, and by fasting with him on Jewish fasting days. You can celebrate the holiday from the OC, 'Chrismukah' - best of both worlds!
2006-11-06 16:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nowhere Man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously isn't an observant Jew. Your question is tricky because Chanukah is a celebration about Jews and religious freedom, and Christmas represents not just the birth of an icon but also is the culmination of many people being forcefully converted to Christianity throughout the ages.
In my humble opinion, celebrating the two holidays is making a mockery of each one of them.
2006-11-06 17:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not celebrate both? Both are beautiful holidays that bring you closer to those who you love, and closer to God.
I admire you for your desire to celebrate a faith different than your own. I am neither Catholic nor Jewish, yet find both religions to be quite beautiful. I wish you luck in finding ways to celebrate the beauty of both faiths.
peace
2006-11-06 15:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Colin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You give him six gifts and he gives you one!
May not sound fair, but them's the rules!
Drink lots of Manashevits and eat some Turkey, both are Kosher!
Like a Chanuka Candle and turn on the Christmas tree, he can pretend it's a Chanuka bush.
Remeber, Jesus was JEwish!
2006-11-06 15:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could both celebrate the other's. You could learn a lot about the world that way. You will also learn a lot of respect for each other.
Happy holidays!
2006-11-06 15:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by GORDO BLAKHART 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you! You can do both! When you prepare the dinner make sure you find AUTHENTIC chanukah food and prepare them without his knowledge...surprise! Also...attend both masses....they can be at different time of day......and at night...let him find the dradel !!! LOL
2006-11-06 15:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DO THEM BOTH! WHOO HOOO!!
u get a dradel AND a fruit cake!
or just celebrate chrismachanukwanzikah!
or festivus for the restofus!
2006-11-06 15:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by James M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
do both...celebrate chanukah with him, and invite him to celebrate christmas with you.
2006-11-06 15:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋