Alright, please give me ur best advice. Both this girl and I are college students and i see this girl twice a week. Im going to see her in class tomorrow and im super nervous cuz im falling for her. We've havent been talking much, the last time i talked to her was last week and it was amazing, i felt this chemistry. She just broke up with her bf and i have no clue what to do. I want to ask her out and get her # but i dont know how to ask her, I dont want to be like "Hey can i get ur number?" that seems too dumb to say. I really like this girl, but i dont want to blow it. All the guys are telling me just ask her out but its not that simple, she just got out of a 1 year relationship. Her friend thinks we should hook up cuz we're both single but how..how do i ask this girl out?!? I dont want to make her think "oh my god this guy likes me" and scare her off you know? I only see her twice a week and since that last talk we had I cant get her out of my mind. Please help this guy!
2006-11-06 15:40:11 · 8 answers · asked by Krazydude111 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay well asking for a number from a girl can be easy. Say ur working together on a project. Or are gonnas study together. Hey can i have ur number so i can call u and set up a time. Something along those lines. Get to know her talk to her. Make her realize ur a good guy. DONT over do it. Also make sure not to get to buddy buddy wit her then ull be to much like friends. Ask her out when its just the two of u. Like wanna get some coffee or whatever it is college guys ask thier crushes.
2006-11-06 15:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by bailey p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1) Find some common ground. Do you like the same food, same type of movies, same sports teams, books, anything...just talk to her, find out what makes her tick, and see if you share any common connections.
Step 2) Find a way to casually work one of these connections into a conversation...you both love Mexican? Tell her you know of a great mexican place down the street (assuming that you do), Both love James Bond? There's a new movie coming out this weekend etc. etc.
Step 3) Casually ask to spend some time with her in a way that relates to one of your common connections...if you both like basketball, maybe you ask her if she'll meet you at a game. If you both love coffee...maybe you can get a cup together some time.
Step 4) Find other things you enjoy doing together and do them. You've pretty much got the right idea by not flat out saying "Hi, I like you, can I get your #?" Cause she's not looking for that. If she just broke it off w/ her BF, then she's looking for a friend, not a boyfriend. Keep it casual, keep it simple, and let things take their course. And if you start getting the vibe in a couple weeks, or a month or two that she'd be interested in more, then go for it, just make sure you're not a rebound.
2006-11-06 15:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Matt S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are in the same class, college boy.
With a friendly, relaxed smile, look her in the eye, and say "Hey, would you like to get together soon and study over coffee or something?" You should start out casually this way, since she's fresh out of another relationship and you don't want to be the "rebound" guy. Bide your time, and aim to become friends first. Find out more about her, her interests, ambitions, background, etc. By the way, your question is one that constantly baffles the female of the species: why do guys you suspect like you pretend they don't? Why don't you want her to know you like her? If you're not smelly, grotesque, or hostile, any normal girl would be at the least flattered and at most delighted to know a guy likes her. If a girl acts offended or freaked out that you have expressed interest in her, she is immature. Be brave..."Fate loves the fearless!"
2006-11-06 15:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by BeenThereDoneThat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy! Flirt. You don't have to say anything yet, just flirt. You're in the same class... so why not get into a group project with her or ask her to study together. Maybe in the library at first, then move away to a coffeeshop. After studying, you can always find out if she's willing to do something after studying. This could be your platform onto which you ask her if she wants to hang out some more. If she likes you in the tiniest bit, she'll want to study with you even if there's no studying to do at all. Asking for a phone number sends alarms out to most girls, it's too obvious and doesn't give the girl time to get to know you enough. Learn to "hang out" and flirt first.
Oh yeah: when it comes to being physical, the best way to "score" is to say you want to wait. She'll be climbing all over you in no time because girls are so used to having guys try to get down their pants right away that a guy who doesn't try and says he wants to wait until you're both ready is more likely to get some. Reverse psychology. It works.
2006-11-06 15:52:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mmmmm 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had this experience a few years ago. If a girl has come off a year long relationship, they might not be read to date just yet. I agree with the 2 people before me. Just keep it light. Don't really ask her out until you two become good friends. Girls that come off a year long relationship don't want to just right into another. You have a chance though. Just be her friend and get to know her and take one step at a time. If you two start to get along good, then ask her if she wants to hang out with you. Don't ask her out per se. Maybe bring a couple friends along with you two two make her feel comfortable around you. Then ask her if she wants to hang out with just you two, and volunteer to pay her way whereever you two go. I asked this girl to hang out with me last year that just came out of a year long relationship, and she said yes, but i didn't offer to pay for her because i thought it would make it a date, and she got mad and it never worked out. Just be yourself and take one step at a time man. Good luck
2006-11-06 15:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go slow. Ask her if she want to meet at the library to study. And really study. After a few times ask her for coffee. It's how my husband and I started dating. They more time I spent with him the more I wanted to be with him. In the beginning keep it simple light and friendly.
2006-11-06 15:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband on line, and besides the certainty that for the duration of the beginning up the communique replaced right into a sprint bland to declare the least, issues quickly have been given going to the component the place we only had to chat constantly. commence by potential of asking how his day has long gone, what his likes/dislikes are style of hobbies he has, beverages etc, fave places, discover your ordinary grounds stable success x
2016-12-10 04:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't ask her out, you'll never know what could happen. I would say keep it casual, ask her out for coffee or something--see if she wants to go grab a bite to eat after class, or something similar.
2006-11-06 15:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by cosunshine3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋