Infidelity is such a huge issue in relationships and I wonder if it has always been this way or if it is kind of a newer problem. I see friends staying in relationships where their partner cheats on them and I am baffled. My parents have been married for 36 years and have never cheated on each other. I refuse to be in a relationship where someone would disrespect me and sleep around behind my back. I've never cheated on anyone. It's happened to me before and it really frickin' hurts. Why do people allow this?
Is it normal and socially acceptable to cheat?
Does everyone do it?
2006-11-06 15:34:09 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Becuase the media is making it okay and its making cheating "nice and sexy". The media focuses on sex right and there for our kids focusing on sex and so and so forth all they care for is the sex no feelings involved so there for subconsciously they dont know what they are doing and they cheat. Plus temptation is becoming harder to ignore cause humens are weak and have no faith in any sort of moral believes or religious believes.
2006-11-06 15:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by TOokieTook 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, everyone is SO unfaithful these days and I would say it's globally affected. Mainly why the reasons for high rate of infidelity is because women nowadays are mostly educated, well-endowed and financially independent, so they don't need to depend on the guys for real love. And when they need sex, they just need to flirt or fool around. Nowadays, it's very rare & hard to find someone who can stay really faithful, innocent and still as a virgin. People or couples in the old days are more faithful and sincere in relationships so I guess the times have really changed but not for the better. That's a sad thing to say. Personally, I'm a very faithful partner & I longed to find someone who is exactly as faithful like me to be with. I REALLY don't think it's ok for be unfaithful and have affairs. I really hope the people will understand my point of view but I think it's impossible as many people has already tasted of the fruit of sex & infidelities and there's no point of returning.
2006-11-06 15:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it is not normal, or socially acceptable to do this. It wasn't always like this either, long ago if you would cheat on your partner you would probably get stoned to death. Some people get cheated on, and instead of doing what they should do, which is break up with them, they stay with them, because they either are letting their feeling for the person get in the way, or they feel insecure without them. Don't think everyone does this just because these people do, this is terrible thing and really has to stop.
2006-11-06 15:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by Ariella 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately cheating has become normal but it is in no way acceptable behavior to me. A lot of people allow thier partners to cheat on them because they are insecure and feel that they won't or can't get better. Some are so in loev that they will accept anything to be with that person. Personally I think that it os better to just break it off with someone before cheating on them. If you don't want to be in the relationship anymore just move on.
2006-11-06 15:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by tweetybird3083 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I remember seeing articles in several popular magazines regarding this issue several years ago. More and more women expect and even accept their husbands cheating. This says a lot for the sorry state our society is coming to (or is already in). Our children are raised with this being commonplace. The media and celebrities that they look up to glamourize it. Turn on the T.V. - even on disney and other 'children's' channels kids are exposed to it.
In older societies there used to be ramifications for infidelity. In Japan if a man cheated on his wife she was legally allowed to kill him - so long as she only used her bare hands to do it. Imagine if a man had that to consider rather than just the possibility of sleeping on the couch or a no-fault divorce. In more than one society, if a woman cheated she was stoned by the other women of her village.
Fortunately there are still people who do not believe cheating is acceptable. But we are fast becoming a dying breed.
2006-11-06 16:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is not acceptable. Cheating baffles me as well. Never done it before and after some experience with others cheating on me I almost fell into the trap of doing the same. I just couldn't shake the morals that I was taught and the respect that I have for myself. I value other ppl's feelings as I would hope they would value mine. We are a rare breed of ppl and should stick to our guns staying true to ourselves and what we believe in.
2006-11-06 15:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by netta_11213 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i do NOT believe in cheating. It's a terrible thing to do to a person's emotions, as well as your own for feeling so terrible for doing it. The only reason I would ever be in a relationship with someone who cheated on me would be if I was in a great relationship and my boyfriend was so drunk that he thought he was with him (and he wasnt lying about it) but that has never happened to me, and if my boyfriend did that to me, I would expect a ton of *** kissing. I will admit though, I did cheat on a previous boyfriend with the guy I am dating now. I dont think it was a bad thing at all because I have been with the guy that I cheated on my boyfriend with, for THREE years and we are getting married. And my then boyfriend is doing great without me, and wasn't upset at the breakup~ I guess it just depends on the circumstances.
2006-11-06 15:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by happygolucky003 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
it is definitely not ok and i can tell you it's never been like this. i've seen people like this at school and i'm a freshman. i guess it's people are not happy or satisfied with who they're with so they go around and cheat on them for the hell of it. i'm not saying that's true but that's my theory. agreeing with a lot of people here it's basically about trust and before you get into a relationship you should consider if the person is really who you want to be with
2006-11-06 15:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The idea that grass is greener on the other side of the fence is to common these days.
Wanting a fantasy become reality can only lead down a road with a bad ending.
2006-11-06 15:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by Mark 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't cheat and never have. No, it is not morally acceptable, but the problem as I see it is that people are not being raised by their parents to be moral people. They don't know about ethics, they don't care about other people or their feelings.
There is a way to begin to "attack" the problem....parents need to get involved and bring their kids up to understand what vows are, what morals are, what ethics are.
It is nothing new - it is just more prevalent now - and more visible.
2006-11-06 15:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋