Should I feel violated?

Question

My boyfriend returning from a trip in Europe went through my cell phone txt messages, and then sent txt messages (pretending he was me) to couple of my co-workers who had previously sent me messages. he thinks there is nothin wrong with what he did, but I feel viloated...

Answer 1

That is an invasion of privacy and a major overstep of boundaries. It shows that he doesn't trust you, and that you shouldn't trust him. Be careful, and be sure to have a serious talk with him about boundaries. Good luck.

Answer 2

Yes.

Your cell phone is your private property. You boy friend did a very childish and perhaps damaging thing when he pretended to be you.

He may tell you it was all a joke and in good fun. You will be the final judge.

Ask your self this question: Has my Boyfriend done anything like this before? If he has done such things before, I would reconsider the relationship.

People's behavior has a way of repeating itself.

Good Luck...Hope that you feel better now.

Answer 3

Yes you should feel violated, i mean, its YOUR phone not HIS
and he shouldnt have any reason to do that, unless he dose not trust you, and if he dosent, lol i say that you 2 should have alittle discussion about trust...
Just like the other day, my friend (Kayla) she was looking thru my txt messages on my phone, and i had some personal things in there ( i was helping this other guy who likes kayla, get her to like him, becuz i know that they should click, he just has to be willing) but the piont is that she didnt actually like him.... but they were flirting the other day.... but whatever im getting off subject, all im saying is that he should trust you, and leave YOUR phone alone.

Answer 4

yeah you should feel violated. If he trusts you he should have never done that. For cryin out loud I am married and my husband would never go through my personal effects. Your phone is just like your purse. Tell him to mind his damn business how do you know what he did over in Europe ? I would be pissed off as well as you should be. good luck

Answer 5

There are some trust issues that you need to confront with him. You should feel violated. Ask him why he felt the need to do that. You may very well find out that he cheated on you while he was in europe and therefore is trying to see if you cheated on him.

Answer 6

Were the text messages mean, disrespectful or of a sexual content? If they weren't then you shouldn't make a big deal out of it, just ask him not to do it again, it's your phone he should respect your privacy.

Answer 7

You need to drop the pretender.
He took your cell phone and texted others who thought it was you.
Send him a text.
You fooled others as me.
We are through.
No fooling.

Answer 8

U should at least feel a little violated. B/c its personal and he and whoever else shouldn't be looking through that stuff.

Answer 9

He invaded your privacy and practically stole your identity. Yeah, I'd feel violated, all right. Tell him to keep his hands off your phone.

Answer 10

Yeah the looking through the txt msgs nothing wrong with it cuz he is your partner but the replying prentending is you is. So you tell him you can look but you cannot touch so please dont because I dont like it. I dont have nothing to hide but I dont like you replying to my friends pretending its me plus it makes us look weird dont you think if you txt my friends and say hey its joe here and wanted to know what sup its kinda like wtf creepy! SO put it like that not in a bitchy way.