well, my parents didnt seem to care if i like a boy or not, but when a guy asked me out and I said yes, it seemed like such a big deal. i kept the secret to my mom but my dad already knows about it. he makes it such a big deal and asks me questions about my bf every single time. if my mom found out, she would probably ground me. my life sucks. should i tell my mom? i have a date with him this friday and i told my parents i am going to the movies with my girl friends but i m not sure how this lies gonna work. if youve been through this, please leave some advice. even if u didnt, please let me know of what you think.
2006-11-06 15:15:25 · 13 answers · asked by eugina l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh my God.i hate this problem...Ok.there are only two reasons why they dont let you date.i guess u noe it,but i am gonna repeat it.firstly,exam results.secondly,afraid of you being cheated.i dun think you will be brave to ask them why u cant date..but try and ask so that u noe which way to use which i will teach u now.if it is because of results,try to study hard until you do your best(very very best),till the maximum.if possible,one of the top students in school.i guess your love will be able to make you do this...prove it to them that dating wont affect your life.the second way is also the same,if they ask why do you work that hard..tell your dad that your bf encourages you to do that,say all kinds of stuff which will make ur dad trust that your bf is a good guy(dont tell your mum yet!).your dad will eventually tell your mum how ur bf affects you to be better in life.ok,1 more thing,NEVER lose your temper towards your parents if things go bad,or else,game over.be a good girl,if you are mature,they trust will you more than ever.they might find it strange,and try to find out why did you change so suddenly.tell your dad,make him tell or maybe convince your mum.anyway,when u go out,dun hold hands in public!(common sense).since ur dad already noes,make him your ally.as for ur date,keep it in secret 1st.actually,come to think of it,dating secretly may be frustrating,but makes it more exciting and romantic too.it makes your date much more precious than ever.dont you think so?ok,i forgot something,if you get caught,do not lose your temper.DUN EVER do that.talk to them calmly,say you love that guy(ask them if they wana see him) or say you and him are just normal friends and trying to noe each other.i cant write anymore,this sort of question can make me write a novel if i teach you to handle evry sort of situation!!!actually,i hope to teach you evrything,but you must think yourself to overcomr all sorts of situations...that will make you a better person.Phew..this is 1 of the longest answer that i have ever type b4...cos i met this situation b4,my parents were strict when i was 17.i will just simply say..show them you are much more mature than they think in a humble way.
2006-11-06 15:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by mR questiOn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't lie to your parents, it will only make things worse. This might be hard, but sit down with your parents and have a talk. Your Dad is just worried about his daughter as most dads are. He wants to make sure that he is right for you and not some predator. That's why he is asking so many questions. When you sit down with your parents tell them that you like this guy and he wants to take you out to the movies. Find out what rules they have for you and what time your curfew would be. Tell the guy the rules and if he can't respect that, then he's not the kind of guy you want to go out with anyways. It sounds like your dad is on your side he just wants to know more about what's going on.
2006-11-06 15:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by jmethod81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old are you ? I know when I was younger I though my mom was a complete idiot. Now I am much older and my parents are the smartest people on earth as far as I am concerned. You always seem to think they know nothing but they have you in mond always. With the way the world is today you should wait. Group date they are more fun anyway. You have plenty of time when you get older. Good luck
2006-11-06 15:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay from experience i can tell you parents have thier ways. but its for your own good. i know because there was this boy that used to call my house every day and then finally my dad thought that there was something going on between us. so we had to stop talking. and yes my parents are against me dating right now. you cant do anything to change your parents mind no matter what. they feel that school is more important than you and a boy dating. so what you can do is just be friends with the boy and hope that your parents dont say anything about it. dont lie to much because when you tell one lie you have to tell another one to cover up the other one you just told. dont do it too much because then when they find out the trust you wouldnt be trusted. so see if this helps. bye.
2006-11-06 15:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by shanice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are u? it is probably because they think ur too young to date. My advice is talk 2 ur parents about the whole dating thing and get to understand why they don't want u dating, and u tell them why u feel like ur ready to date. Maybe then u can make some head way is this controversy.
2006-11-06 15:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If they don't want you to 'date' then they probably have good reasons for it. Talk to them, be honest, don't lie or be deceitful. And if you are starting to 'date,' you should start in a group and not be alone with him. If he is willing to let you lie to date him, then he is not the right guy. Talk to your parents together, try to compromise and also, the guy should ask your parents first if he wants to 'date' you. Hope it works out. :)
2006-11-06 15:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to hate my answer, but if your parents don't think you should date, you probably shouldn't. I don't know how old you are, but my guess is you're fairly young if you're parents don't allow it. It's also never a good idea to lie to your parents. If you really want to date, think of a valid, well thought out speech to give your parents supporting your desire to date, and offer to let them come along (embarassing I know). If they still say no to this, then do what they say and wait. Parents generally know what's best.
2006-11-06 16:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think on the inside u already know what to do. ur just not sure. Ask urself questions. Is he really a nice guy? Do you think ur mom MIGHT understand? trust me my mom woun't let me date either.
2006-11-06 15:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by saddleclub_cowgirl145 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah! Never lie to your parents! Maybe consider your parents' opinions for a change. They're just protective and if they don't want you to date, it's probably for your own good!
As for me. Ew. Guys. Cooties. =P
2006-11-06 15:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by blooperzine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its always important to have good communications with your parents especially your mother. Depending on how old you are and how old the guy is.......your parents have you in their best interest.
2006-11-06 15:21:24 · answer #10 · answered by LOVELY LADY 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋