we have been broken up almost 4 months now but we were together almost 7 years and i just feel all alone. we still talk sometimes i talk more than he does but for some reason out of the blue he sends me dirty text messages i dont really know what to think of this especially since he has a new gf who is 9 years younger than him... i guess it still tears me up inside and i dont know where our relationship will lead but we are still trying to be friends.. it just sucks how do you get over someone so quickly when you know every little thing about them and were together so long?
2006-11-06 15:03:05 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The y say it takes 6 months to every year to get over someone I dont know about that I think you will get past it when you realize its time to let go its the only thing that has ever helped me and hes not over you or else he would not be messaging you hes just being an *** men seem to think if they get someone oyunger they really have done something but obviously she dont mean anything to him or else he would not be flirting with you and him keeping you a freind thats so he can have something to fall back on Your way to good for this man you deserve so much better and no worries this girl will get her just due the man is worthless youll see this once you find someone who is good and loving and deserving to you
2006-11-06 15:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by witchy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just takes time. You're probably better off cutting all ties with him since you're not making much progress. He's not helping giving you mixed signals. Not sure of the circumstances of the break up, but sounds like your better off without him. Start hanging out with friends, go out even if it's just to a Barnes and Noble or something lol. It is hard, just takes time. Try not to dwell on stuff either, I know easier said then done. This sounds awful, but something else to think about. If you did get back together, he's been with someone else all this time. How's that going to make you feel? Little arguments are going to explode into huge ones, you'll be comparing yourself with her for every situation. It'll be real hard, trust me.
2006-11-06 23:07:22 · answer #2 · answered by tikitiki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, stop communicating with him until you're heart has healed more...you are not allowing yourself to get over him...when you decide to do so, then you will, but talking or emailing or text messaging is only going to make it more difficult...
Don't hang on to a future with him...get over him, move on, and if down the road some kind of friendship can exist then great...but don't try it right now while you've kept the feelings and breakup too fresh...you shouldn't be this vulnerable to him after 4 mos...
2006-11-06 23:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry for what you are going thru.it is never easy to move on but if he has a gf a clean break would be the best thing for you .you need time to mourn the death of the relationship.you have lost a person in your life and it is just like a death in the family.i know i have been thru it more than once.
the best thing to do is keep your distance you might be able to be friends at a later date but it is impossible when the break up is this fresh,7 yrs is a long time and if you didnt marry in the 1st 5 then it was never going to happen.this being friends is going to hurt bad why would you want to put yourself thru that unless you have children.
the trick is to stay busy spoil yourself for a change for 7 yrs you have been pleasing someone else think about what would make you happy enjoy the time you have to yourself get to know yourself again it might surprize you and you might like being single for awhile,there is someone for everyone it bad that it wasnt him and you wasted 7 yrs on him my advice is dont waste another minute on him not even as a friend.date, there are alot of wonderful men out there that would love to please you.he's out there, go shopping ,have fun, enjoy life and love yourself first...it will be ok the heart mends just let it by keeping your distance for awhile have a wonderful life and be safe out there in the single world....
2006-11-06 23:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by susan w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start dating again but just casually don't look for a serious relationship right now and just meet new guys and get to know them don't mean sex but see whats out there. I was married 19 yrs and got hurt in the end also but I moved on in time you will be ready to find a more commited relationship and be more open to find what you want in a man at that time. Today I have been married 7 months and I love him very much!
2006-11-06 23:07:57 · answer #5 · answered by wildrose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to get over someone quickly. Trust me, I broke up with my girlfriend after 4 1/2 years. We were talking about marriage, but eventaully decided it was too hard and we ended it. The way I have gotten over it is slowly. I talk to her on a consistent basis, but to not talk about the relationship is tough. Just take it slow, one day at a time.
If you want, write an e-mail.
2006-11-06 23:06:56 · answer #6 · answered by The Pilot 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just throw yourself into other activities, try to keep yourself busy and have a good time while doing it. It will help get your mind off less important things. plus, if he didnt want you anymore and he sends you dirty txt messages then he is missing out on something big-YOU!!!
of course this the 14 yr old with no experience talking....
2006-11-06 23:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by Marsha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something Specially
For You
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-11-06 23:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just have to move on. It will take time, but I would say the first step would be to stop talking to him/her for a while. Surround yourself w/ those who care most, friends and family. Use them as your comfort. That's what God put them there for. If you let go, you will heal, but as long as you keep talking to him, it's not going to get any easier.
2006-11-06 23:06:34 · answer #9 · answered by mandie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a new cell phone number and don't let him know what it is. He is torturing you mentally on purpose, the s.o.b..... the way I got over my ex was to decide that that I didn't need anyone anymore....I was going to have sex just for the sex.........then I found someone who was PERFECT FOR ME!!!!! You are worth more than he thinks. My exhusband always told me that nobody would have me other than him, he was trying to brainwash me into believing that because he KNEW that all of his friends wanted me :) Try to talk to yourself and remember that you ARE beautiful and sexy and you will find someone who values you for what you are!!!!!!! Take care!!!!
2006-11-06 23:07:57 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋