not LEAVES ME, but for example right now, we were at home fooling around (i live with my parents) but my parents were not here, (im 20 years old but my parents are really conservative) and my boyfriend is really respectful and afraid of my parents... he wasnt comfortable making out so he wanted to leave.. even though i told him its all right, he should stay a while longer.. and still he left... i feel really rejected but i dont want to make a big deal... am i overreacting? would you get offended?
2006-11-06 15:00:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and no, thats not all he wants from me- he was really tired and kind of getting sick... but still, its one of the few times ive actually TOLD him to stay with me... and he said no..
2006-11-06 15:04:45 · update #1
hes too scared of getting caught- theres no place for us...
2006-11-06 15:05:47 · update #2
I can understand how that would be a confusing message to get from someone u're with/attracted to. Thus, I think there's room for concern; however, it may just be that he is vested in u and doesn't want to put himself or u in an uncomfortable situation with the parents. Perhaps he thinks just making out leads to more. You may want to consider opening up dialog to try and understand his point (don't be afraid, understanding is really affirming), or you can try and put urselves in a location where he doesn't have to be nervous about being caught.
Good luck! and I hope all works out :]
2006-11-06 15:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Regina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understad the feelings your having but you should try to understand your boyfriends feelings.If your boyfriend is feeling uncomfortable with this situation i think you should respect how he feels.he sounds like he is being respectful of your parents and maybe you should do the same. if you want to fool around do it somewhere where your boyfriend feels at ease and make it romantic and sexy. candels flowers a bubble bath ,etc..., sometimes a change can spice things up too. a relationship is about sharing,and caring,trust and honesty and love and supporting eachother, sometimes it is hard to find a balance but not impossible. keep trying dont give up and you will succeed. good luck.
2006-11-06 15:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by cjk21_mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you reading your own question?He doesn't want to do anything in your parents house.Why?Because he's afraid of them,so that puts to much pressure on him,and i can't say i blame him.But you said your 20 years old,why are you still living at home?Do you work?Still in school?You need your own place so you can do your own thing(and so does your man)Yes your over reacting cause it's not about you,it's where you live.Still living at home at 20 should offend you,or your man not having his own place by now should.
2006-11-06 15:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got a gem of a boyfriend. He doesn't want to do everything before full committment/marriage. Ask him if is offended by the conservative nature of your house, or if he unhappy with the arrangements you have in meeting each other (like being at your place and talking to each other etc)? You will find your answer.
2006-11-06 15:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by S&D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't take this the wrong way, but if you would like your privacy with him, you should look into finding a place of your own where you don't have to worry about them all the time. I'd be upset, but there isn't anything you can do. I wouldn't want someones parent's walking in on us either.
2006-11-06 15:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go somewhere else, get a motel room. You aren't evrracting, but if he didn't like being with you, he wouldn't be with you. He just wants your parents to like him, and He's afraid that they might catch you guys in the act and they won't like him to much after that. it's okay hun, get a vibrator in the mean time...lol.
2006-11-06 15:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Pinky Dinky Doo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he feels like leaving suggest that you guys go somewhere else like the park, a drive, walk or something.
2006-11-06 15:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by pacific_crush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far has your boyfriend gone? Maybe he is just uncomfortable with his own sexual inexperience (that's just a thought I really don't know). Guys can be a lot more sensitive about sex and how well they perform than girls.
2006-11-06 15:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd say you are overreacting...why don't y'all go to his place and fool around...or you get out and on your own so you can have privacy and be as un-conservative as you desire?
2006-11-06 15:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girly, why don't you just go out with him to a friend's place or something. Or maybe the guy's too chicken for you?
2006-11-06 15:04:36 · answer #10 · answered by Allen K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋