I have found myself recently single, and someone from my past is coming back into my life. It started back in high school...it was amazing. The biggest obstacles that we faced were our age, the places that we were in our lives, and our families. Those seemed to have a huge bearing on me, especially considering I was three, almost four years older than him. Now our lives have crossed paths again, we are going to the same college, and we are starting to hang out again...I'm getting over a relationship, so I don't want to rush into anything, but the age thing seems to still be an issue with people. I am now 22 and he is 18. I have a lot of feelings for him, and I want it to be right when and if we decide to try things, but I just don't want the age issue to stop us from being happy. Age is a big thing with my family, and they have a huge impact on my decisions. Should I try this, despite everything, or should I wait? I just don't want to let something great go....
2006-11-06 14:47:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like hes a pretty amazing guy if he came back to be with you even after 3 years of being apart. youre a very lucky girl to have such a guy in your life who cares of you so much, for who you are and by the sound of it wants to do nothing but make you happy. im sure if he has waited this long to be with you already that he will be willing to wait out any obstacles you two face. also that he feels you are something.. so great, and would never want to let you go... take your time and be happy, thats all hed want for you... hes not going anywhere...
2006-11-07 14:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Eric T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously you should think about it the age is not that big of a deal as long as he is legal age. Think about it though I mean you still have feelings for him because of what he means to you after how ever many years right? Thats more than lust, does he feel the same way?
I would suggest this well I would highly recomend this to you,
sit down and talk to him face to face. Ask him what your concerns are, what your intentions are and be really clear about what you want or dont want. Tell him the age thing bothers you, so he doesn't think its him in general that is doing something wrong. Let him know you have strong feelings for him but seeing that how you just got out of a relationship that you are getting over that it would not be a good idea to get involved. People tend to take the bagges from past relationships into the new ones unless they are over it. You will posion your relationship with him unless you are complete over your ex. On the other side you want to let him know how you feel with out rushing it or losing him. So keep it on the low down for a while dont think about the age, its the person that matters not the age.
2006-11-06 22:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by TOokieTook 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make this decision for you. It really depends on what you feel is right. If you still have doubts about the age thing, you may always have doubts about the age thing. Keep in mind that you are on the rebound right now and the easiest thing to get will be the first thing you go for. There is a lot of growing up that happens between the age of 18 and 21. I would stay friends with him and see what happens when he gets a bit older. Plus it's hard to leave the one your with at home because he/she is under age and you want to hang out with your older friends.
2006-11-06 22:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by jmethod81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for this guy, you should not let anyone stand in your way. You are only a couple of years older then him. You are the only one that will know if it is right or not. I met this guy seventeen years ago after my divorce. He asked me out, I turned him down the first time, and accepted the second time. He looked, and acted older. I didn't even ask his age at first. After a couple of dates I asked his age, and was floored to find out he was 6 years younger than I. We have now been together for 17 years. At first it was a little odd at times. But after a while, it has been great. I went with what I wanted. So if you are happy with him, go for it. Just take it slow.
2006-11-06 22:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bobby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You waited this long and if those feelings are still there you owe it to him and yourself to explore those feelings. There is no need to rush into anything but you may date for a month and realize it was a big mistake or not, but at least this way you will know. I know from experience that wondering about something that never was can torment you for years.
2006-11-06 22:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by D P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and tell him. But prepare yourself for potential setbacks.
4 years diffference is really just a small gap.
A lot of times, in our life, we are so strongly influenced and LIMITED by this thing called "social conditioning".
Break free from all these restrictions imposed by society, culture and family, most of which don't make much sense anyway.
Your happiness in entirely in your own hands. If you wanna be happy, start taking control of it.
Hope you'll find your happiness.
2006-11-06 23:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by aLTered_eGo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the old saying... If you love someone let them go if they come back it was ment to be if not it never was. Hun yours came back. I say go for it. You owe it to yourself to give it a try or you will always wonder what could have been. Good luck!
2006-11-06 22:54:37 · answer #7 · answered by christal l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to let something good go..you answered it yourself...don't give up!
Age is nothing but a number, and that number only means one thing, if he is number 1 in your heart! If he is..dont let his age hold you back!!
2006-11-06 22:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should follow your heart in the end... after all you have one life to live and it's the choices you make that count... stand up for yourself and do what you want, think, love... you'll gain self-respect that way :)
maybe talking to him about how he feels abt you both and age will help too... hope this helps & all the best! :)
2006-11-06 22:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things will go even worse if you get into relationship.....after 10 years think about the time ..... so just finish up your lust and forget each others
2006-11-06 22:50:52 · answer #10 · answered by CHANDAN G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋