Why Did Fiance Say getting a Truck was Ok if she didn't really mean it?

Question

My existing car hasn't been reliable and my fiance can't drive a stick, so we made a joint decision to get a different one. She said that I could get anything within reason, that had a back seat large enough for a baby seat. We'd discussed anything from a crew cab pickup to a family sedan. She said she would be cool with any of those choices, although she preferred the car. After careful deliberation, I decided that I preferred the pickup. I thought it would be handy for running errands and picking things up for the house. When I told her my choice, then she said that's fine but that she would never want to ride in it, because it doesn't fit her "image". So, why did she say it was ok to get a truck, if she didn't really mean it?

Like you all are saying, I guess that was her way of sending a hint. But, if she's strongly against something, I just wish she'd say so in the first place. Also, I would have to disagree with the first response. I'm absolutely in no way attempting to start a fight, only trying to find a compromise that works for us both.

Also, how is it being flexible for a person to go along with an idea in concept only? If you tell a person it's ok to do something, then go back on your word, where's the flexibility in that?

To me, it seems like she's asking me to do most of the flexing here...

Answer 1

Girls do this all the time. When she tells you she "preferred" the sedan she meant "we are getting the sedan, ur choice is irrelavent." and when she said she didn't want to ride in a truck, alarms should have went off in your head, she meant "you better not get that truck, or so help me God..."

Masters at understatement. They think it's giving us "polite hints" that will steer our train of thought. You will never be able to change this in women if they are like that.

Best thing for you to do is when they give you "hints" just take the "hint" as a in your face statement. Then again as soon as we do that, they'll say that it was just a suggestion and that we took it all wrong... go figure.

Answer 2

she was trying to be flexible. it's called being accomodating. she didn't want to start a fight but it kind of sounds like you're starting one anyway...be nice to her! she sounds like a nice lady. cars can be useful for errands, too...if you've actually got a good reason (do you haul lumber a lot? what?) to want a truck rather than just the "it looks cool" well...then get a truck. otherwise, you might wanna look into a nice comfortable car to help yourself and your family out. just a thought.

Answer 3

well, i guess most ladies are like that...

they don't want to hurt the guy's feelings so they give subtle hints which i'm afraid most guys don't get... i'm learning to be more straight forward with my bf myself...

can't really blame us--it's a venus and mars communication problem... understand your partner better and communicate more... all the best! :)