It started like this. I knew him five years ago and we were friends since then. A couple of years ago we use to flirt with each other and one day he asked me for a kiss, and I gave it to him with the condition to remain as friends and that's it. I saw him again a year after graduation, we talk for a while, he wanted a kiss and I gave it to him. I liked the feeling I got when I kiss him, that is why I did it. After he told me that we are better off as friends and I agree with it. Later on he tried to go for a kiss but I did not let him. Another day he tried a second time, this time he was a little more aggresive by insisting it and moving towards it, even though I said no. My "no" was weak so he took it as a yes or maybe. I asked him why is he doing that he said because he wants it but relationships are complicated. So yes besides kissing we went on to further things like when he placed my hand on his penis and his hands we going through my breasts and my vagina. I know I was a fool
2006-11-06 14:20:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and such and idiot. Today I realized that he wants nothing more than sex with me. The worst thing of all is that I alloed him to do that, therefore he has no respect for me now. I feel confused and quite unconfortable. Ok, as a human I have brains too and I know that even though I messed up this time I will not let him do that again. If I have to be rude (since I am sweet and shy) I will be.
The problem is, how will I handle his disrespect to me, and what if he tells his friends (which are mine too!!). Before I was quite respected among my peers as a mature an d a smart person. My reputation will be ruined. How will I handled that. How can I earned it again?
2006-11-06 14:20:39 · update #1
Why worry about something that hasn't happened?
2006-11-06 14:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have anything to apologize for, you didn't do anything wrong and your "NO" however you said it should be good enough. He is the one with the problem and you stick your ground no matter how rude it is and as for your friends explain the situation to them and don't hang around that guy again because he could end up raping you. When he does these things you need to report him to the police and he is no friend if he disrespects you that way and he only wants you for one thing. He has problems and you need help from your friends or police, make sure he doesn't make you feel bad, or do things you will regret and make sure you don't fall for any of his lies. Remember don't let him put the blame on you, it is all him. So, Good Luck and stick to your guns and don't let him to pressure you into things you don't want to do or that you would feel bad afterwords.
2006-11-06 14:33:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your reputation! That can come at a later time. Right now, you need to focus on your own emotional "stability" or whatever you want to call it. Don't think about him at all until you know what you want for yourself first. After you think you know what you want in any relationship, apply it to you and this guy. Try to work it out within yourself what you do and don't want from him, and then maybe go to him or another trusted friend about it. Go to someone that can help you solve the problem (and yes, it is a problem). Start with the small and work your way out (yourself and then him, and then your reputation). Good luck!
2006-11-06 14:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The thing is when a girl easily allowed herself to be used the boy lost respect for her.. now he will take you for granted.. and if u want to get your respect back.. let him burn for you ..show like that you dont need him you can live without him very eaisly and you are recieving even more love from others....
this will help a lot.. because there are moments when a boy wants to be hugged to be kissed and to do sex and in those moments dont show interest in him.. he will call you to meet alone dont let it happen ..with time you will see that if u will not respect him or you simply ignore him his respect for you will go on increasing for you.... for instance it is just an energy phenomena...becouse as the body lives on food the soul lives on love and attention/...do one thing don.t pay any attention to him.. you will get your respect back very eaisily.. but remember don't run from him but just don't pay any attention to him....
take care
2006-11-06 14:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by CHANDAN G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, so he took advantage of the situation, which SUCKS. Just move on from here. Next time he wants something, say no and mean it. Your reputation really isn't on the line here...It's all in your head, honestly.
2006-11-06 14:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Steph L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve all this after all. It was your body, why did you not take care of it? You should be thankful thta you are not pregnant or anything of the sort. You have more things to be worried about other than your rep'n.
2006-11-06 14:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by melomane 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
next time he asks for a kiss tell him to kiss this (_!_)
2006-11-06 14:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋