Im in love with an older man that is 20 years older than me. I was dropping him off at the airport and before he got out of the car he gave me a kiss. We both got out and i tried for another kiss, and he said I already gave you one hesitenatly and walked away. Now i know some ppl are going to say hes afraid of PDA, but he's kissed me in public before, but I thought older guys with younger girls was a good thing. If you were 34 and your gf was 18(LEGAL) would you introduce her to your friends etc?
2006-11-06 14:16:24 · 28 answers · asked by *Bella Reveuse* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi -
If everything is legal and there are no worries in that department, then ask a few questions:
1. Is he married ?
2. What is the attraction between the two of you (sex,
intellect, hobbies etc..) ? Be honest about this
3. Does he have kids and how will you feel about that?
4. How far do you really want to go in this relationship?
5. Can you see yourself with this person in the years to
come?
I am not trying to deter you from anything but I can tell you from experience that as time goes on aging can have an effect on things which at one time you may have mutually enjoyed. For example: you may have an enormous sexual appetite at some point in your lives and his may diminish or vice versa. This is one example.
My best suggestion is for you to learn everything about this person that you can even if you have to play detective. Also remember that your taste in people will chage with time.
2006-11-06 14:45:33 · answer #1 · answered by Erik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, a 42-year-old man would consider dating a 25-year-old woman. If it were me, though, the turn-on wouldn't really have much to do with the age (yeah, it would be flattering). I have always appreciated being attractive to women--no matter what their ages. Not all older men are after sex--take me for instance. I am interested in finding true love. If that happens to be with someone younger...then so be it. I don't think a number should get in the way of two people who have chemistry emotionally, physically, and mentally. Give your 42-year-old guy friend a chance. If you have that chemistry, then go for it. Otherwise, you will wonder for a long time if it might have been the real deal. Experience is the best teacher!
2016-05-22 05:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be afraid that people will think that he's kissing his daughter. That is a common mis-conception with a couple with that much of an age difference. I was in a marriage with a man that was 13 years older, but he didnt look it (thank god!)- so, relax a bit, maybe he just needs to get used to it, or maybe he really isn't THAT into it for it to be a public affair.
-EA
2006-11-06 14:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well since i'm a girl i would be kinda hesitant at first to introduce him to my friends and family but u have to get into the kind of mindframe that like i love this man and i dont care about what ppl think so if he really really loved u he would...but he also could loose alot of friends jus because everyone has their oppion on how things should work out in the world...make sence? if not sorry lol
2006-11-06 14:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by leelee 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not a guy but I don't see a reason that its anyone's business how old someone is so I think If I was the guy I wouldn't tell anyone your age as some people won't understand and are very judgemental at first glance (or so I've been told).
2006-11-06 14:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ive never dated a guy that much older than me but my aunt it common law married to a guy over 30 yrs older than her and they are happy, the way you tell this story almost seems like he is giving you a kissing allowance, and that is a very fatherly thing to do, you may want to take a step back and evaluate the relationship for what it really is
good luck, and smile big
2006-11-06 14:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Shorty 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well im well over 34 and my lady is bit older than 18 and i will be introducing her to my family soon (its long distance as well) --- so if both people care for and love each other --- go for it
2006-11-06 14:21:25 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I thinks it's fine for two people who have an age gap to go out and be a couple and such just as long as they're both legal.
2006-11-06 14:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by dogmatitans 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd watch out .....are you sure he is available or are you just his toy!!! No PDA for a quick kiss in public seems a bit fishy to me....check him out a bit more closely
2006-11-06 14:19:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sammyleggs222 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on the guys comfort level. My boyfriend is 9 years older than me and he has no problem introducing me to his friends/family. I do feel a little silly when he's with me and my friends, I feel to immature when we're all together. Personal preference.
2006-11-06 14:19:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tristan 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋