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are trying to get themselves invited to our company Christmas party. Since I am the one planning the Christmas party, my hairdresser asked me about getting invited. When I booked my hair appointment for that day, she even had me book way early in the day so she can run home to get ready for the party herself! I in no way offered an invitation or even said she could come. It is not even my decision. Neither of them are even employees anymore. I spoke to my boss about it (and felt stupid for even mentioning it, but her mom was an employee recently, but left to take care of her dying husband). My boss mentioned it to me today and we/she decided it was best not to invite them and to just leave it at that, but what do I say when I go to get my hair done. I've considered just cancelling my appointment altogether and just go somewhere else. How should I handle this?

2006-11-06 13:44:31 · 9 answers · asked by wendygirl1000 2 in Society & Culture Etiquette

9 answers

dont risk it......go somewhere else.....hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

2006-11-06 13:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Tell her that the decision is out of your hands - which is now the truth b/c the boss says its best for them to not come. When she asks you why, tell her that it would not be fair to any of the other ex-employees if she were invited and not them. Explain that this is a Human Resources issue and not anything personal. Hopefully she will understand that the decision is beyond your control and will not blame you. Also, from what your saying it sounds like she assumed she could come, and was testing some boundaries with you. I think she may know better than to attend the party (since she no longer works there) but figured you would not be confrontational about it, so in a way she is taking advantage. I'm sure its not malicious, but I do think she needs to take some of the responsibility for pushing herself on you. Not to mention that she knows you will be placed in an awkward position if you say no, so don't think she doesn't also have her ideas. Be strong, be confident, and don't forget that ultimately if you did want to invite her, the decision is not yours and it is a company party, on company property and she is no longer an employee.

2006-11-06 14:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by cami 4 · 0 0

I agree and think you should just cancel your appointment and go somewhere else. But then, if you want to go back after the christmas party has passed then she might know judging from you hair that you have been somewhere else and take offence to that. Its a difficult situation. Are you good friends with them? If you arent then i would probably say go ahead and get your hair done somewhere else. But if you are good friends that you might want to bite the bullet and tell her she isnt invited to maintain your friendship. It is a difficult situation. If you do end up going to the appointment and she takes offence to not be inviting you could just say that it was wrong for her to pressume that she was invited and the party is for employees only. Goodluck.

2006-11-06 13:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You can either tell them that this party is for employees only and that you are not in charge of the guest list so they can't come, or you can do what you said and cancel the appointment to go somewhere else. It depends on how comfortable you are with confrontation.

2006-11-06 13:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0 0

You need to explain to her that you know for sure only current employees are invited. If she wants to go to a party with her old co-workers she needs to plan one. You should be honest with her. Do not cancel the appointment she has the right to know the truth.

2006-11-06 13:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 1 0

If it was me, I wouldnt have asked the boss, I wouldve just let them show up and not involve me in it. Since you already got the "no" just tell the ex's the boss found out from someone and told you it is for the current employees only.

SORRY.....

2006-11-06 13:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Either go somewhere else to get your hair done or do it yourself. Who needs the guilt trip from people who are so rude to put you on the spot like that?

2006-11-06 13:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by DeborahDel 6 · 0 0

just tell her your boss said it was an employee only party that is there is to it

2006-11-06 14:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

i think should do whats best for you

2006-11-06 13:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by andykpln 4 · 0 0

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