I'm single,and have been out of circulation for a long time. I have chronic pain,I can't walk very far or sit for long.
You can't always tell anything is wrong, unless I limp. My pelvis gets out of place, so at anytime I can be normal one minute, in severe pain the next, and can't bare weight. Chronic SIJD,PS,IC,FMS.
I've been unable to work for 3 yrs. I've had horrible anxiety, depression and didn't leave my home for a long time.
I feel ashamed to tell anyone any of this.
Most people say 'Are you working?' rather than 'How are you' or 'How are things?'
I'm an RN, and have no idea where to find work, if I can one day. Any work from home suggestions?
When I feel optomistic, like maybe I could find a companion, then I think what's the point. It's hard to do anything 'normal'. Movies, restaurants, travel.
A few times I've increased my activity, and got 'trapped' where I couldn't stop or lie down (if not the bones keep rubbing).
I can't figure out how to have a life
2006-11-06 13:41:24 · 6 answers · asked by Marie123 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
Deane,
I am single and have systemic lupus. It causes pain and fatigue that come and go, and you never know when you just can't stand or walk anymore. I lost both my jobs because of it. It is hard when people ask what "you do." I now answer, I am a human "being" not a human "doing."
When our identity is wrapped up in what we do, and then what we do is taken away there is a period of grieving. All the stages of grieving for a dead person come into play, but we are here and grieving for who we used to be. Truth is, we are the same person. And everyone is going to face physical detioration and death. We just got to do it a little earlier. So be angry and sad and hopeless. Then try changing how you think. I am not saying be a Polyanna and say, "OOOOOOOOOO I am so glad I have this and I don't have leprosy!" That is just silly. But begin to focus on what you can still do.
As far as relationships go, I believe it is best to be upfront about your physical limitations. And as you begin to enjoy your own company again, others will too. Please consider looking for a support group. If you go to one and it does not work for you, go to another one. Not all groups are created equal.
You have a life, you just have to claim it. After all the grieving and wallowing and cursing and swearing that we do, and we all do it, there is a time to transform our lives. Cure is absence of disease or deformity. Healing is being at peace with yourself right where you are. You may not get cured, but you can heal. Good luck to you.
2006-11-06 13:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Linda R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will find that person when you least expect. I will pray for you that your sickness and your pain is completely healed.
Try www.accessnurses.com
You will be able to work anywhere you want and anytime you want. They specialize in travel nursing, but I believe they do per-diem.
Also, you can work from home. Start your own business! A legitimate online business. Just think of something you really enjoy doing. Or maybe start a chronic pain online site that will benefit several people.
Dont worry. Youll get through....
I'm praying for you.
2006-11-06 14:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you will in all probability evaluate this to be yet another evasion, regardless of if it relatively is not. actual discomfort and lingering scars and disabilities at the instant are not the only standards that define torture. That definition additionally encompasses psychological and emotional trauma--alongside the lines of the PTSD suggested above. in case you prefer to get good all the way down to it, PTSD is an enduring actual effect, in that it relatively is the effect of altered recommendations chemistry that has relatively palpable outcomes on an persons existence--migraines, insomnia, uncontrollable rage, melancholy, you call it.
2016-10-15 11:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I just tell you not to feel too bad? I'm fully capable, a bodybuilder, and don't get any dates. Don't feeel bad.
2006-11-06 13:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well your gonna have to find time to help yourself your mind,body,and soul.Dont worry thiers someone out htere for everyone.Keep your spirits high.
2006-11-06 13:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
cant your doctors help u
2006-11-06 14:09:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋