if a girl is happy in her new relationship . . would she still be calling her ex that she dumped for this new guy every couple weeks? . . .even though he hasnt answered or sent her something back in 4 months? and she still tries to contact him . . also . . can girls act completely happy on the outside and really be torn up on the inside? is there any way to tell if a girl is feeling like that? . . and if she wanted her ex back why would she still be with me and acting fine? why wouldnt she go back to him? maybe because she dumped him and doesnt know if he will take her back? they did go out for 2 1/2 years so i dunno . .. whats goin on?
and she hasnt told me that shes been calling him . . . and we have been dating since april and have been in an actual relationship for like 2 months . . . how long would she use me as a rebound if thats what i am? wouldnt it be over by now? it been about a month since she called him now since she was calling him. . . so maybe she will stop . . .
then just today she sent an email to him . . . it was this
hey! i just wanted to tell you that i hope you had a good birthday. i was going to call but i figured you wouldnt answer like usual or stop by and give you a card but you would have probably acted like you werent home lol. so i hope you had a good one. it would really mean a lot if you just sent something back lettin me know how ya were doin and stuff...i'de really appreciate it (name)! kayyy bye. . .
so if he hasnt responded to her since june why is she still trying to get ahold of him . . . when he hasnt responded since june?
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and then she just sent this message to him today
"look i know that you are getting my messages...i really just dont understand why you cant even say hi or something?? can you honestly please just give me a reason, like if it still upsets you or something, i mean thats fine. i just figured you could atleast do that for me...so please?"
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i should also add that she has been calling/texting him since the begginning of july . . . he tried to get her back for 2 months after she broke up with him. . . they broke up for no reason . .. she just told him she wanted to date around .. . . and she texted him on what would have been there two year anniversary and reminded him of it
2006-11-06 13:41:09 · 11 answers · asked by osb2904 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Congratulations! You are the rebound guy. Dude she's definitely using you as the rebound guy. She wanted to date around and he didn't that's why he's not calling her back. If he was to say to her "okay let's have a open relationship", she would lie to you about it and act like she's acting now, like everything is fine. You have the proof that she is willing to be unfaithful to you, now what are you going to do with it????
2006-11-06 13:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by 12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but in her head this is a short break before she gets back with him. The anniversary is still important to her, she is texting/calling him with no reply (this is to show that no matter what, she's still there). The only reason they broke up was so she could mess around (long term realtionships can get boring and if you're young you feel like you're missing out on 'sowing your wild oats' before you get tied down with mortgage/husband/kid).
This isn't any fault of yours, it's just something she has to work out. Which is fine. But that doesn't mean she should use you as a comforter until her boyfriend will have her back. She's got her own issues and she has to deal with them. But everyone deserves a girlfriend or boyfriend who appreciates them, is a little bit crazy about them (especially at the beginning) and can give their full attention to them. So let her go.
2006-11-06 13:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by edith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I thought maybe she was feeling guilty for dumping him or hurting his feelings. The more I read, it's as if she only wants what she can't have. He has become a challenge to her, therefore she is interested in him again. She is literally begging this other man for attention. I wouldn't put much stock in your relationship with her. It is good that you are aware of what she is doing, this way you won't be caught off guard. You could stay with her and play it out for what it's worth, but don't delude yourself. She is not "the one". She will likely never be happy with anyone, at least until she reaches emotional maturity. Good Luck.
2006-11-06 13:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by Kalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. She feels really bad for breaking up with him and she's completely convinced that she's broken his heart or hurt him in some way. That's why she keeps contacting him. It wouldn't make sense to be in the kind of relationship you both have and still love him. I don't believe she does.
2. Yes, it is possible for a girl to be completely torn up inside and to hide it and act like nothing is wrong. I've done it before. For months and nobody knew nor will ever know. 'cept you! lol
2006-11-06 13:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she spent 2 and a half years with him and so she still has a connection with him and wants to be his friend and dont want any hard feelings. if they arent meeting and hookin up or anything u have nothing to worry about it will take A LONG time to get over but dont worry she is with u thats all that matters
2006-11-06 13:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to find a new girl. Let her contact him all she wants without you. If she was truly happy with you she wouldn't even think about him. Good luck.
2006-11-06 13:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by ladyrebel4real 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was TOO big so I didn't read all of it like every one else but if you have girl don't call her ex ok and and if you like her give her somthing nice for valentines day
2006-11-06 13:46:02 · answer #7 · answered by kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me put it to you plain as i can, let her go baby cause she isnt feeling you at all she is feeling her ex. sometimes it is just like that. she is probably regretting that she broke up with him and now she is unsure if he wants her back. if he does and she finds out about it baby you are gonna be yesterdays news. plain and simple, find someone who isnt on tha rebound. move on....she doesnt seem worth tha heartache she is causing you...good luck
2006-11-06 13:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by sherryw_1978 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, first rule in dating... do not, i repeat, NOT try to understand girls. You'll end up paranoid. And any logical thinking doesn't work with them. If she keeps on calling her ex, mention it to her. Don't go like "Hey, why're you texting him?" act like you're jealous... They love that...
2006-11-06 13:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by J 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
woe brother! why are you allowing her to do this? She wouldnt like it if you were sending messages to your ex girlfriend i bet! That is not even right for her to be doing that, she sounds wishy washy to me, i wouldnt trust her if i were you, keep your guard up, seriously!
You need to get on her butt for real!
2006-11-06 14:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋