How many parents out there have talked (or will talk to) their teenagers about sex....not just the birds and the bees...but include ways to prevent pregnancy, STD's, STI's? I have a 15 month old daughter. I know that when she does become a teenager, I am going to sit down with her and lay EVERYTHING out on the table (abstinence, pregnancy, STD's, STI's, prevention, morals etc...etc). I'll even offer to help her get birth control and/or other methods of protection. The way I see it, it's not GIVING permission to have sex as a teenager, but I have to do MORE than JUST HOPE she won't make bad choices and deal with the consequences later. I think that if teenagers are going to start becoming sexually active, then they'll do it weather the parents like it or not. I would rather my child go through her teen years well informed, than come to me one day at the age of 16 and tell me that she's pregnant (or worse); with me regretting that I didn't at least talk to her. How do you feel?
2006-11-06 13:39:35 · 12 answers · asked by Easter Bunny 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is the way my mom raised me. I never chose to have sex until I was ready(I was raped at 18, however). My mom always told me that if I made the decision to have sex she would support my decision and provide me with birth control and condoms to protect against STD's. I feel like this was a very effective way to raise a child and plan on raising both of my children the same way. I want to have an open relationship with my children and let them know that I'm going to support them in their decisions, whether I'm happy about it or not. I would prefer that my daughter not have sex until she's married or in a committed relationship, but I know that that is not always feasible. I will at least provide her with protection against pregnancy and STD's if she chooses to have sex before that. If I ever have a boy, I will treat him the same way as my daughter by having an open honest relationship with him and providing him protection if he chooses to have sex. I just hope that they come to me before someone is pregnant or worse because I want the best for my children. I'm want to make sure they are informed and protected from all that is out there. I also have already made the decision to make sure my daughter gets vaccinated from HPV now that there is a vaccine available.
2006-11-06 14:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by a1dermommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. The only difference is that I wont wait until my daughters are teenagers. I have already had questions from my 7 year old daughter about sex. I answer honestly but I don't indulge. She will ask what she wants to know. I have learned through her that she hears a lot of things in school and they are not necessarily the truth. I think sex ed goes on for years. It is not just a one time thing. I think all parents need to be prepared to discuss ANY questions their children have. Good luck with your daughter.
2006-11-06 21:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother never talked to me. I am now 18 and just fine. We learn about it from the world now, probably better than sitting down and talking with a parent. "The Talk" is just way to uncomfortable for a kid, no matter the age. Your daughter will learn about everything from the world around her, whether it be from TV, radio, school, even experiances from her peers. Don't give her anything, that could be the worst thing you could do. Inform her yes, but don't give her an option to have sex, especially at that age. I've seen way to many of my friends get hurt that way, three pregnant. They had parents that gave them condoms, birthcontrol, etc. That was a mistake. Two of my girlfriends, and one guy friend ruined their lives. Your daughter will learn most things on her own, I garuntee you.
2006-11-06 22:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by S L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are dead on. Good job. Too many parents make the mistake of sheltering their kid from that type of knowledge in fear that, i.e; if their kids know about birth control they will have sex (in fact studies have shown that young teens who know how to protect themselves are LESS likely to have sex than those who don't). Or they insist their kids learn about abstinence only but not any protection measures. Then what ends up happening is their kid gets pregnant, or gets a girl pregnant or they catch an infection or disease. Simply because they were unaware of how to protect themselves.
2006-11-06 22:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by Nyx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. I want mykids to know about the real workd before they find it out on their own. My girls are 4 and 5 and I can only imagine what it will be like when they are 14 and 15. But oh well, hopefully I can prepare them. But not all kids will listen. Thats why they are called teenagers. good luck to all of us.
2006-11-06 21:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is so great to hear of a responsable parent. All too often, the parents think that if they ignore it, it will go away. But it doesn't! I admire you for your wisdom. Just a suggestion though, I would begin the talking earlier than teenage years (both sex talk and regular-nothing talk). Kids are doing things earlier and earlier.
2006-11-07 00:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sera B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats th way, just one add on:
Masturbation is a perfect and normal way for a youngster to practice the functions of the body with no risks. Also helps her to cheoose partners and dont go to bed with someone, just to experience orgasm thats written all over in papers and press.
Good skill to have even as an adult. Only way to stay true to your spouse in long trips and so not having to buy sex or have it in office.
2006-11-07 06:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tero J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree, we as parents need to take the time to educate our children not only about sex and its dangers, but also about available birth control! with 60% of our 14 year olds already engaging in sexual activity it is never too early to start!
2006-11-06 22:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by tpuahlekcip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with all the movies out there, its only a matter of time. our parents heard of sex when they were much older han us, but we were seeing it ealier than they were and our kids still more.
we cant prevent them from seeing it. as for the screening of the internet...dream on. the simplest methods of evading parents is enough. clearing the history cache is the easiest...to downloading software.
so we have to do whats right...talk to them from the beginning in small doses...put it in the way the understand.
when a mommy and daddy love each other.....
2006-11-06 21:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Lord of chaos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
most of the times you don't have to tell them anymore
they learn from school(sensitve issues 4-8 grade)
that teachs them pretty much everything
2006-11-06 21:43:33 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋