instead of going to my dads for xmas i want to stay with my mom since the whole family gets together when at my dads its only him and the step mom who i dont get along with. so im only going to visit him for a week during xmas break so i can go snowboarding and hangout with friends. should he be upset?
2006-11-06 13:30:01 · 19 answers · asked by 123456 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
for the people who say that im being selfish, last year i went and lived with him since he really wanted me to i left friends and most of family so he could have a year and it didnt work out. I spend spring break and most of summer with him. when i go there its not enjoyable im in my room most of the time and the stepmom treats me like **** that the main reason i dont want to go if she wasnt there i would probley spend more then a week there.
2006-11-08 18:26:58 · update #1
i would spend half the day with him but he lives three hours away
2006-11-08 18:29:54 · update #2
a week is not bad to spend with him... he'll understand that you have your own life now.
2006-11-06 13:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by wingless angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him how you feel it is showing you love him and you care about how he feels and another suggestion might be if he can stay nearby you at one time in the break so he can join in your life . One thing i can garantee is he wont hate you a parents love never ever dies but dont leave it till the last minute to where he cant make plans.Things will probaly get better over time with the step mom ,acknowledge her as a person and friend rather than a step mom.One day she just maybe the one you turn too when in need .My eldest sis was from my dads previous marriage (her mom passed away) she and mum fought to the extent she lived elsewhere for a while but over the years of her getting married having children etc their relationship become rock solid...When my sis died after a long time illness it was my mum that nursed her.Never close anyone out of your life and im sure your dad wont close you out for the decision you are making for christmas.
2006-11-06 21:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you spend 1/2 of Christmas Day with your Dad???....How old are you too...that makes a difference.....and your Dad should be happy that you do want to share a week at his place. Christmas is a time for families & friends....and he should respect that you would like to see other family members too. This is coming from a Mother that has 2 sons , 18 & 19...so I know how it goes. I would have Christmas Breakfast at my home, then my sons would go be with their father the rest of the day....and if he wanted to spend some time on the Eve of Christmas, he could do that too.
2006-11-06 21:37:22 · answer #3 · answered by l_a_k_lowe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is going to be disappointed. You have to do what you want, but don't always blow him off. You gotta spend xmas with him every couple of years. Maybe next year make a suggestion to go somewhere with him for xmas.
2006-11-06 21:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by Aaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. yes and no. He shouldnt be upset if you wanna go spend some time with family. yes he should be because that prt about you wanting to go snowboarding and hang out with friends kinda seems a little shady... why not invite him along
2006-11-06 21:33:09 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you feel more comfortable around your mom then that's your choice to make. Tell him that you like being around more people and that you don't necessarily get along with your step mom. He should resepect your opinion and respect your choices. You should be allowed to have fun on YOUR christmas vacation. SO no he shouldn't be mad.
2006-11-06 21:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by amagaldi_star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he shouldn't ...if you are visiting with him also during the xmas holiday then you are doing the right thing...enjoy your time at mom's, enjoy your time with dad, and have a good time snowboarding
2006-11-06 21:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He maybe upset but that's one of the terrible parts about divorce....it breaks families up.
You're job isn't to make your dad happy....explain what you want to do and then make arrangements to visit with him after the holiday.s
2006-11-06 21:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I don't think so. At least he will see you for a week. You sound old enough to make your own decision about whom you'd prefer to be with for Christmas.
Your dad is a grown-up and I think he will be able to get over it.
2006-11-06 21:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my parents are both gone now but i would have told my dad that i would like to spend one hour for xmas with him then the rest ofof xmas with your mother to bad if he can,t handle that
2006-11-06 21:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by dar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your selfish. He only gets to see you for a limited period of time and you can't give up snowboarding for a week. Shame on you.
2006-11-06 21:32:09 · answer #11 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋