He asked me to marry him tonight on the phone , He said if whenn I'm 21 and your 20 and I asked you to marry me what would you say . I'm 13 and hes 15
2006-11-06 13:26:07 · 33 answers · asked by Megan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are WAY too young to be thinking about that kind of stuff! Tell him to cut it out- you have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-11-06 13:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
When I was 13 I thought I was in love with this guy that I was dating. He was handsome and funny. He was a wonderful guy. If he would have asked me to marry him them - in the future, I might have said yes. But it wouldn't have been realistic.
Now I am 20, and he is 21. He barely graduated from high school and is still in my hometown working a part time job. He was heavily involved in drugs and alcohol in high school.
We ended up breaking up two weeks into my freshman year of high school. A few months later I began dating a wonderful guy. By being with the new guy, I realize that what I had experienced when I was 13, I was not in love.
I would suggest that if he truly loves you, you don't need to decide to get married when you are 13. If you guys are truly meant to be together (which does happen) than he will wait and you can properly become engaged when you can afford it, and get married when you are ready to. And start a family, if that is what you want, when it is the right time for you - and you an afford to properly care for yourselves and your family.
If he truly loves you, and he should if he's asking you to marry him, than he will understand why you have to say no, or a temporary no.
You can just say, if you ask me that again in 10 years I will say yes.
But for right now, I have to agree with everyone else - you are too young. And trust me, the guys I am attracted to now are much different than the guys I liked when I was 13. I'm 20 years old and I don't plan on getting engaged or married for at least 5 more years. I want to live my life first, have a good job, travel the world. Any guy that loves me enough to marry me, will understand that.
I hope this helps, and good luck!
2006-11-06 13:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jeanne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're NOT 21 and 20, so that's an impossible question to answer. You have no idea how much your life is going to change in 7 years!!! I'm 21 and lemme tell you, I would hardly recognize myself today if I saw me at 13. The development that occurs is truly astounding. You go from child to adult. That's huge! Anyway, if you guys feel like imagining your future and fantasizing, go for it. But actually making promises and commitments at your age is not wise.
2006-11-06 13:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear that will never happen because if you are 13 now and he is 15 when your 20 he will be 22. You are to young to even be thinking of marriage and so is he. Right now you need to enjoy being a child and having a boyfriend.
2006-11-06 13:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. keep in mind your both in your teen years... chanced of you "being in love" now... or if you are... being in love 5 or 6 years down the way is not weighing in your favor... I'm 23 and I only know 3 couples that have stayed together from when they were 14 y/o or so... it's up to you.. you're both young, and theres a lot of world out there... Keep your mind open
2006-11-06 13:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, first, it's waaaay too early in both your lives to even be thinking about that right now. How do you feel about this guy? If you are crazy about him, tell him that when the time comes and you still feel the same way, then you'll think about marrying him. For now, though, tell him it's just not the right time yet!
2006-11-06 13:33:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point and time is when you state.. If you like or love him that much. That your still together then you will think about it. No need to rush it sweetie. I am 26 and not married. I have been giving that same question. You never know what tomorrow brings.
2006-11-06 13:29:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that's a wonderful gesture, but don't get your hopes up. If it lasts and you get married, wonderful and all the best. But there's a very distinct possibility that it won't last. You've got 7 years. That's high school and college, a lot will happen.
2006-11-06 13:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its impossible for him to be 21 and you 20 at the same time because he is always 2 years older than u. it was probably a prank by ur enemies
2006-11-06 13:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say please wait. I had a boyfriend when I was 13 and I can't imagine being with him now that I'm 25. People change and so does everything in your life. Wait until you're older and you know yourself better, then make the decision.
2006-11-06 13:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Rayslittlegurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-11-06 13:30:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋