get married six month a go.. my husband live in different country .. and I am in the USA... I receive a call from my sis.. she was telling me that .. she saw a used condoms in my hasbands..car.....I couldn't believe what she was telling me.. so I called my husband and ask him if that right.. he said no.. but I have a one night stand with some girls.. I was so up set.. Isak him why. he said because I been a way for 6 month. and he need to have sex.. I was so upset I dont trust him eny more.. I just hung up the phone.. I went to my best freind house.. I tell her what happend.. she asked me.. u r a human to.. u need to have sex too .. but u didnt do it.. so let go and have onenight stand. so u fell batter..enyways... I was thinkinf about it .. my husband keep calling me .. I cant talk to him eny more.. but I dont want to finish my marrige.. I love him.. but he cheated on me. I just can take it. I m really thinking . abou the onenightstand.. but what do u guys think.. should do what he did
2006-11-06 13:18:16 · 12 answers · asked by heregoagain_1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
soory but I didint tell u guys that he is in army in iraq.. for the next 3 years ..
2006-11-06 13:34:41 · update #1
Having a one night stand is not going to help you, it will only make you feel worse. You need to decide if you are willing to stay with him and forgive him for cheating or not, but cheating yourself is not going to make anything better.
2006-11-06 13:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by hargonagain 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One night's stand is still cheating, it is way worse that he did it after only a couple of months of being married.Thats a lame excuse that he did it because he hasnt had sex in months, if he loves you he should only want to have sex with you.If you want to stay with him you guys should go to counseling so someone can really let him know how much he hurt you.But its really going to be hard for you since you dont trust him.Why is he another country anyway? is he in the military? If not you should always be with him.*
2006-11-06 21:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been away for six months and the reason for his infidelity was your absence then this may not have been his first time cheating.
Did you fulfill your need to have sex while you were away? If not, was was it because you are married and you were loyal to your husband? Well then guess what? You are entitled to that same dedication. Before you try to figure out what to do about it, make sure that you are in a place emotionally where you can look at the facts before leaving him or taking him back.
2006-11-06 21:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by 12 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 wrongs don't make a right. Really if you don't want to end your marriage because you do love him then he is going to have to earn that trust back which may take a long time but if you are willing to try then why should you go and add another affair to the problems already in the marriage. Seriously think about it and decide if you are willing to try with the marriage or if it is truly over.
2006-11-06 21:23:27 · answer #4 · answered by cNm114 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, its not the best way to prove a point. Doing something to him that he did to you could go on and on forever...you will just keep cheating on eachother over and over. That is not the right way to solve anything. But, If it were my husband who cheated on me, i would have to get a divorce, simply because if he loved you, then how could he make love to another. Dont let him do this to you. Move on with your life, find someone who deserves you!!!!! Good Luck!
2006-11-06 21:22:57 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should have a one night stand. It will only serve to harm your relationship futher. Only you can forgive him. But I would not tell him this until he returns home. You can forgive but never will you forget.
2006-11-06 21:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let him sleep with you ever again and divorce his a--. He is a selfish di-- and needs to be punished! Find a guy and bang him good.
2006-11-06 21:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Michael C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ened it or one of you need to move to the other one..try phone sex. or get cam for your puter and masturebate with each other waltching.. but i would never tust him.. once a cheater alwat a cheater.. and if he loved you he would not hurt you like that
2006-11-06 21:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't trust a man when he's in a totally different country than you...
2006-11-06 21:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by HC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you shouldn't .... think of how you feel now he has cheated .... you'll only feel the same way about yourself if you cheat .
2006-11-06 21:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋