I went to pick my daugther up at a friends house, which turned out to be a party. When i walked in, she was on the couch having sex with her boyfriend and another girl. She had gotten very drunk. What should i do?
2006-11-06 13:12:21 · 9 answers · asked by Jim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't know how old this daughter is, but I'm assuming since you had to pick her up at this party, she doesn't yet drive. I am surprised if this is true that you would have to ask what you should do.The first thing I would have done would've been to snatch her butt up and beat the **** out of her. If the other two where of age they would go to jail. And believe me the friends house is no place for children to visit since there is no adult supervision. Did you even do anything about the under age distribution of alcoholic beverages? Trust me when I tell you if you don't get control of that girl you are in for a lot of hard times.
2006-11-06 13:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the other people here recommend the pregnancy and std tests, which I do agree with, I would rather get her some counseling for her drinking. It was because she was drunk that she did this. Was it peer pressure? I don't know. Definitely ground her. She needs your support as well. She needs to know that you are there no matter what. I would be terribly disappointed in her, but if she was drunk then maybe she really didn't comprehend what was going on. Have a long talk with her. I am so sorry.
2006-11-06 22:00:59 · answer #2 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! ground her #ss! I hope she was at least 17. I mean I'm 18 and I'd never do that, knowing that my dad was going to pick me up. I wouldn't want to lose my folks trust. Never let her go to a party again, unless you are sure other trustworthy parents will be there. Teach her some responsibility, like how she could have gotten STDs (or maybe she did) get pregnant or taken advantage of since she was drunk...because that can get pretty scary!
good luck. :)
2006-11-06 21:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old she is. If she is under 18 then you need to have a serious discussion with her about what you saw and what activities she is partaking in. Experamenting with sex is one thing but doing it while drunk is very dangerous.
If she's 18+ then you need to talk to her about drinking and using protection. Unfortunately at that age there won't be much you can do that won't drive her away from you.
2006-11-06 21:22:19 · answer #4 · answered by phatcatrun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't yell or scream at her. Don't ground her for life. She'll only rebel. Just let her know how disappointed and hurt you are. Chances are that will be more punishment than anything! Also take her to the doctor to get tested. You might want to limit internet access and get disconnected from MTV, which makes things like this seem "cool".
2006-11-06 21:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything. SHe is a sexual being and you will have to live with that. No repremandation will do any good at all. People will do anything they can to fulfill thier sexuall desires. If shes already hyaving such sex, there is no turning back. Dont think of her as a whore. She is just a squirrel trying to get a nut.
2006-11-07 03:05:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jonny5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, definately get her checked out. That's a hard one. Talk to her, find out what's going on in her head. Don't let her out for awhile until she earns back her trust. That sucks, sorry:-(
2006-11-06 21:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by jonesin_am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and i thought i had problems, seriously get her checked out by the doctor,pregnancy test.and then a very long chat good luck.i wonder if you could ground her till she 30
2006-11-06 21:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh geeze!! that's horrible! get her to a gynecologist for a preg test, std test, and to be put on birth control!! then you need to have a huge serious talk with her and then ground her!!!
2006-11-06 21:21:47 · answer #9 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋