i know i love him, and that he loves me but why does he do it and then apologize, like hes so sorry,but then do it again?
2006-11-06 13:10:25 · 16 answers · asked by tonya k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are in a cycle of abuse.
2006-11-06 13:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would get out of the situation. If someone loves you, they shouldn't hit you or call you names. That is NOT love. Do they still love you if they try to kill you or scar you for life when you leave them?? I think you are just insecure with yourself and you don't see you deserve better than that. Plus he is an abusive a**hole who feels the urge to control you through words and actions because he is a big p*ssy. Any guy who hits a girl is a huge p*ssy - to be exact. The sooner you see that, the better off you are. Sorry you might not like that answer, but I grew up with parents like that and it was not a happy life until they got divorced. Trust me - he isn't sorry and it's not love. Unfortunately you will probably have to learn the hard way . . .
2006-11-06 21:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
Love is an incredibly powerful thing. The one time I have been in love I was so different than I normally am. Sometimes I think that was a good thing. I was always so happy. I would wake up with a smile on my face. Yet sometimes I think it was not a good thing. I let my guy get away with things because I was afraid of losing him - of being alone.
If he told me I looked nice for the day or that he loves me, I would forgive anything. My guy never hit me, thank god, but he did hurt me in another way - he cheated on me. And the first time I forgave him, and took him back. I was so hurt, but he just said wonderful things. He looked so disheveled and heartbroken that he had hurt me, that I felt as if I was hurting him by not taking him back. I still loved him. That's not something that can change overnight. And I thought that because I loved him and he loved me that we would be able to overcome anything.
Then he cheated on me a second time. He didn't come to me and tell me like he did the first time, he tried to cover it up and keep it a secret. I realized that I would never cheat on him, because I truly loved him. But because he cheated on me, twice, that proves that he doesn't love me. He doesn't even respect me.
There is no excuse for hitting a women, none at all. Just like there isn't an excuse for cheating on someone. Just think, if you found out one of your friend's boyfriend's was hitting her - you would probably be disgusted, and advise her to dump him and to tell someone. But because it's you that's being abused, and it's your boyfriend that you love who is abusing you, you see the situation as being fuzzy.
Trust me, if he is able to hit you - he doesn't love you. He also doesn't deserve you. He won't stop. If he has hit you twice, that just proves it. You need to break up with him, and he needs to get help. He needs counciling or therapy, because he is not dealing with his anger in a healthy way.
So please don't put up with it any longer, tell someone and get help, for yourself and for him.
Good luck, and I hope this helps you.
2006-11-06 21:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can. It will only get worse. If you fear he will be violent when you leave, call your local domestic abuse hotline. They can give you tips to get out safely. This is not love. Perhaps you have low self esteem. Whatever you decide, I think counseling would help. How are you going to feel if you have a child with him and he emotionally abuses your child? Good Luck!
2006-11-06 21:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by kelsey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of the relationship NOW! Call 911 and let them know you have been victim of assault. These are the SOB's that end up murdering there GF or wife. The abuse will continue and will not stop. GET OUT NOW!
2006-11-06 21:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, until you get a bit smarter, you are in for a long roller coaster ride of depression and abuse. Not a whole lot to look forward to there.
Maybe you need to get a better concept of what love is all about...this sure ain't it.
2006-11-06 21:15:39 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, there is some sort of reward that you gain by allowing this.
Only you can say what the reward is.
As for me, I can only love a man I respect, and I could never respect a man who struck me.
2006-11-06 21:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by silvercomet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ppl tend not to understand unconditional love and if you love him fine I agree but baby there is a thin line between love and abuse- if he has hit you you need to lay law down and if he can't accpet that then he needs to go and that's real if you love him that much you'll let him go once you get tired of the abuse!
2006-11-06 21:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Carter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kno how u feel, i am only 13 and i am in the same predictament( ?) (situation). the only thing is when he hits me i strike back. in your case, i guess his love is just 2 good 4 u 2 let go, so don't.!! and if he is just 2 big of a man 4 u to hit back, then be the bigger person, and walk away.
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2006-11-06 21:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
hes an *** and you deserve better get out now and find someone to truly fall in love with you dont know what love is yet
2006-11-06 21:13:34 · answer #10 · answered by Jayde 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he intimidates u. Or u just love him soo much and u think that he might change and u have hope for him.
2006-11-06 21:18:42 · answer #11 · answered by Nicky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋