She really needs to go slow. Sex is one of those things that
you can't know how your going to feel about it, til after.
If she is having so much trouble with bad self image...she
should wait and do more talking with the object of her intentions.
If he really loves her, he can help her get past these bad feelings.
Because, he doesn't see her that way at all. She needs to hear this, and from him.
2006-11-06 13:09:21
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answered by J B W 3
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Most women have that problem, when to the man or boy, they may never even notice it. The only thing that your friend should do is to be herself, because he must love her already since she has a ring, plus she realy don't want to change away from being the person that he fell in love with.
2006-11-06 21:06:11
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answered by Jerome E 3
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You can't. If she does not like her body, her sex life will suffer as she does not feel worthy. This is her issue not yours. Her feeling about her body which validates her sense of embarrassment about sex cannot be fixed by her fiance either. He may tell her that it doesn't matter to him (which may be true), but she won't buy it because she doesn't believe him. She has to get at the core of her feelings to recognize them, address them and set forth a plan to resolve them. A woman therapist is one avenue I would definitely offer as an option.
2006-11-06 21:11:35
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answered by Monsieur Rick 7
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That's tough. She has to be confident with herself and her body. If he loves her-he won't care. Chances are he is insecure about things too. I have flaws that I wasn't embarrased to let my husband see on our wedding night (varicose veins, strange boobs) but he loves it! Just help her know that she is beautiful. Maybe ask her what areas she is ashamed of and help her see that those models and actresses are airbrushed. She's real!
2006-11-06 21:05:50
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answered by Angelstar_BC 3
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She needs to understand her fiance loves her...all of her and once she can let go of the physical limitations her life is limitless. He loves her for her ... maybe it's for him to do and convince, not her friends. Once she really understands the intimacy & sexualtiy of a man and a woman and that it really has nothing to do with body style she will be more comfortable. If she is a virgin I can totally understand her hesititation, but if not she needs to seek professional advice to help her move thru this and not ruin her relationship with her intended.
2006-11-06 21:09:27
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answered by crkristy 2
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Help her understand that if he loves her enough to marry her, he's in love with her entire person. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and her fiance is content that he has found someone who is beautiful inside AND outside.
2006-11-06 21:04:39
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answered by captainmcsorley 2
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at the point of engagement, love is suposed to be towards things other than apearance and sexuality(unless to people marry that are both appretiative of the romantic aspects of sex), if theyre in love, she should have nothing to be embarrased about, sex can be a way of exposing yourself completely to another, and thats how she should view it
2006-11-06 21:07:25
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answered by Anonymous
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maybe she should talk to her fiance about her flaws and her feelings of shame. If they are engaged, then I'm sure there is love there and flaws are over looked.
2006-11-06 21:06:27
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answered by Magica! Star 4
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everyone has flaws. If the two people love each other truly than flaws will be a thing of the past.
2006-11-06 21:03:47
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answered by tqpinklady 3
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She needs to work on her self-steam, couse if not sex is not the only thing that will failed in that relationship
2006-11-06 21:05:20
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answered by gone 4
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