Should I leave this alone?

Question

The moment I first seen this girl, it was like being hit by a truck. Ever since I can't get her out of my mind. Ive kind of talked to her here and there, but each time I freeze up and my mind goes blank, partly because her eyes are gorgeous.

I've never felt feelings like I do when she makes eye contact with me.

Here's the problem, I think she may have a boyfriend. But according to a previous answer to another question:

"Don't let them slip away - sometimes it doesn't come again."

Now im really worried, what if she's the one? What happens if I do let this one slip away? In 20 years will I regret it?

I want to maybe start a budding friendship with her and see where it goes, or should I leave this alone?

Answer 1

A true man (whatever his age) does not chase after someone else's girl. Strike up a conversation with her, simply ask her if she is seeing someone. If she is, let it go.

You have to remember that this crush, or bombshell feeling is one-sided at this point.

Step-up, square your shoulders and ask her what her status is. Then if she is taken, walk away---be a man of integrity and walk away. Believe me what you are feeling is a physical response, not a soul-wrenching love. True love is based on a shared history, attraction and desire for each other. it isn't one-sided.

Answer 2

How can you let something that isn't yours slip away? To start a friendship with this person in the hopes that you and her will get together is deceiving on your part and you're being unfair to yourself. What happens if she finds out that your only trying to be her friend because you want her and boyfriend (who she may love) to break up? Start a friendship with her only if you can accept that you may never have the real relationship that you want with her. Now is she's not taken then go after her. If you can share your feeling with us, then you are ready to at least ask her out.

Good luck!!!

Answer 3

I would just like to say that I believe you should go ahead and friendship because you can never have 2 many friends if you figure out that maybe shes not "the one" then you still have a friend......I personally am in somewhat of the same situation, except I am the woman that feels that very way when my husbands best friend looks at me!!!!.......I have been with my husband for 10 yrs.....and it has been a roller coaster, but I love him.......Often I have the feeling about "the one" and still to this day He and I both know.....but I have a child to raise, and that wouldnt be fair to him........Think the situation over, you have to make that decision and dont allow another to make that call for you!!!!!

Answer 4

Starting a friendship with her is the best path to take for now. Get to know her and let her get to know you. You might find that she feels the same way about you and didn't know what to do about it. Good luck either way, but it's definitely worth a try and even if it doesn't work, at least you'll have another friend...you can never have too many of those!

Answer 5

Grammar and sentence structure are not your thing. I hope you speak better than you write.

To not "freeze up" try this, when you feel the freeze coming on, fake a cough and regroup. Immediately get back in there and continue your conversation. Women like to know they have an effect on a man, but if you go to mush you will never have her respect nor will you have her.

About the bf, do your research and ask around-discreetly. If all else fails, just ask her.

It is risk vs reward, go big or don't go at all. Be prepared to lose it all, as she may just see you as "friend" material.

Now is she worth the gamble?

Answer 6

Please do not use me to see what you can get out of it because it really won't work the way you want it to. I will just let you down because i really do hate people who do that to me. I mean it is like "HELLO! Where is my say and share in this issue? Why didn't you tell me first? Because i am really apart of this issue which makes it really my business too".

You should talk to her one on one or else you will never find out if you don't go there.

You have really got to control yourself! Know how you can deal with different situations.

Answer 7

Your idea sounds like a good one. A friendship with her. Even if it turns out that the two of you are incompatible as a couple. It may end up being a really good friendship.

Answer 8

Become friends. I've become great friends with the guy I've loved for 1 year and 6 months and we are getting closer and closer. Friendship can turn into love eventually. Like for me, I was flirting with the guy i like by teasing him and I stole his pen cuz he kept poking me with it and he held my hand hostage. So i was sitting there, the pen in my other hand, and he was holding my empty hand. If she shows interest in you, go for it. And casually ask her if she's going out like saying "Ugh, I haven't had a girlfriend in ___." she might respond like "Neither have i!" or "I'm happy I have a boyfriend." good luck!! Hope I helped and didn't talk about me too much

Answer 9

If she is single and you are single you better jump on it. Being nervous is a very normal behavior. This happens to both men and women. So, count yourself part of the human race. You better go get your girl, before someone else notices her. Good luck and God bless

Answer 10

Fallow your heart, if your heart tells you to go for it , then go for it. True love don't always show it's head, so if you get a glimps, go for it. Think what will you loose if you don't ask, only your mind, but if you do ask, then you'll know for sure. Just to let you know I'm being truful about this, I'm a man.