I am a 21 year old college student. I am in my last semester of college?

Question

and am starting to be different than i used to be. i am always moody and i feel guilty if i do anything other than study. i always procastinate and wait till the last minute to do my work. i am taking 21 hours and am just ready to graduate. i just got married and my husabnd is very patient with my moods. i have told him i think i have depression but he says i am to motivated to have depression. do you think these are signs to depression? i am getting to where i dont like to go to town b/c of all the people and i am losing my patience more quickly than usual. i dont know if its just burned out or depression. thanks

21 hours does not mean per day! it is per week. thanks for helping though!

Answer 1

You sound fatigued and burnt out. I suggest you plan two things -

1) a short day trip with your husband to "detox" from the stress of studying, and
2) a real weekend trip with your husband after you finish your last semester of college.

On the short trip, you may still be moody, worried, isolated, aloof, etc. But it will provide necessary stress relief even if you don't immediately feel it.

Planning the second trip wil provide an event horizon to look forward to, and will help motivate you when you're feeling emotionally threadbare.

Best to you and your husband. You're almost there!

Answer 2

It is entirely inappropriate for you to do ANYTHING about your crush until the semester is over and your final grade is submitted. Your relationship should remain strictly teacher-student until the class is over. However, you can ask him, in a friendly way, about his trip, did he go to see family, friends, a girlfriend... and let him supply the information he wants to share. If he hints at any sort of significant other, back off. During the final week, make sure to find out when his office hours are, so you can visit and find out when he has submitted your final grade. Once your grade is no longer in his control, then your teacher-student relationship can end and you can make a move (and NOT before - remember, flirting with a student could seriously damage his career, and it's not fair to put him in that situation). Ask if he'd like to go out for coffee or something... or ask how you can maintain your fluency now that you've finsihed the class... see if you have any hobbies or interests in common... I'm sorry to say it, but it probably won't work out. He is significantly older than you, and his home is in France, so it's likely that his interests and needs are far different from yours. Be prepared for that, and for any rejection you may face. But once the class is over, feel free to pursue the relationship anyway - there may be yet another lesson here to learn, and one that can only be learned from experience.

Answer 3

more than likely it is a mild form of depression. I suffer from clinical depression and it is hard to concentrate on my school work. I also try to wait til the last minute, I work well under pressure. If this is something that is bothering you, or you think it be affecting your relationship, seek counseling, or talk with your primary care physician.
Other symptoms are the moodiness, but also the urge to cry for no absolute reason, distraction, procrastination, anxiety, self-doubt, pessimism, and suicidal thoughts.
Please talk to someone close to you, if not a professional.

Answer 4

Hehehehe, you sound just like my wife and me. We both got very fed up with the nature of college toward our way out. It's normal. Also, I wouldn't say this is depression though it technically is a sign of it. I wouldn't bother with a doctor or psychitrist unless this continues after graduation. If you are really bothered, try taking a break and focus on other things, take up an active hobby, and make sure you take some personal time with your new hubby. It is very important to keep relations together when you think times are hard. Have you heard of senioritis?

Answer 5

Probably a mixture of stress, burn out and depression. 21 hours is A LOT of hours You are probably so stressed you are not sleepig or eating right..that right there is enough to cause fatigue and depression.. Being a newlywed has it's own challenges..YOU have your hands full (at least you don't have kids lol) People who are depressed don't have a lot of motivation (at least I don't). However, I am not a doctor so I can't say you don't have depression..Good luck..maybe you need a vacation

Answer 6

Mostly I'd say burn out, not a lot motivates you anymore even graduating.

I'd say that you need to de-stress and make at least one night of the week "your night" where you don't have to answer to anyone. If you wanna study then study, if you want to go shopping go, if you want to lay in a bath and listen to 80's hair bands listen away.

Your hubby's trying to be supportive (even if he's annoying you lol) and I'd say that you should just unwind. Just remember, you're going to be getting time off soon!

Start remembering why you're in school and look for short term goals to set up for yourself, that should help break things up.

Answer 7

The neurotic single girl can study more than a neurotic married girl . You are now driving your aura with marital sex and you don't know what to do with the feelings. Your brain is having a hard time with the reality of marriage and your body desires. You are forcing expectations onto your brain that don't match reality and it will hurt you back unless you become more real. You have to be alone to think this out as you cannot tell all to hubby . Be real and look at life. Look at your friends and family. Don't they all wear a mask in society and at home? I hope this wont throw you off your heavy schedule for studying.

Answer 8

You are certainly experiencing, at least, symptoms of burn out, if not depression. Burn out can lead to depression if not taken care of.

You need to get this checked out by a doctor or mental health clinic. Usually, for burn out you need to reduce some of your stress factors, even if that means that you take less credits at school and graduate a little later.

Better to graduate a little later and be mentally healthy than to push yourself beyond human limits, get depressed, and then not be able to function at all, for who knows how long?

God bless you.

Answer 9

Having read in detail I wound say on a professional level that you have to much on your plate. You are stressed out, with lack of proper sleep. (Atlest six hours of sleep per night is needed to rest your brain and your body). If you are going 21 hours per day it is not possible to eat balanced meals.

If you continue to keep this schedule for sure you are going to have a nervous breakdown and related negative health problems.

My professional advise to you is to cut back on the 21 hours or young lady you will find yourself in a mental state when may not even see graduation. If you are going to enter into a career, your state of mind will not even get you through an interview for a job.

I have listed to below the symptoms that you must have five to be DX., with major depressive episode. I really don't think you will meet the five.

If you meet five of any of the following you are suffering from Major depressive Episode

1. depressed mood, (or can be irritable mood in children and adolesaceents). most of the day, nearly every day, as indicated either by subjective account or observations by others.

2. markedly dimished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activitites, most of the day, nearly every day (as indicated either by subjective account or observations by others or apathy most of the time).

3. significant weight loss or weight gain when not dieting (more then 5% of body wieght in a mounth), or decreased or increase in appetite nearly every day. ((In children, consider failure to make expected weight gains).

4. insomnia or hypersomnia nearly every day

5. psychomotor agitation or retardation nearly every day (observable by others, not merely subjective feelings or restlesness or being slowed down).

6. fagiue or loss of energy nearly every day.

7. feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate qulit (which may be delusional), nearly every day (not merely self-reproach or guilt about being sick).

8. diminished ability to think or concenrate, or indecivin\veness, nearly every day (either by subjective account or as observed by others).

9. recurrent thoughts of death (not just fear of dying), recurring suicidal ideation without a specific plan, or a suicide attempt or a specific plan
for committing suicide.

Clinical Psychiatrist, France

Excuse my english please

Answer 10

Well, it certainly could turn into depression if not treated now. It sounds like you have too much on your plate and have run out of coping skills. Your anxiety level is what is causing your melt down. Call a mental health clinic or psychologist now and check this out.