I have a co-worker who I really admire and respect. I am VERY attracted to him, and would like to ask him out. The problem is he is not of the same ethnicity and I am nervous about the whole thing.
2006-11-06 12:31:34 · 18 answers · asked by heartbroken 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Then don't ask him "out." Just figure a way to get him into a place for lunch or coffee...set this up semi-regular with a "hey! that was fun! Tomorrow? " After a few of these, a better feeling for him, THEN ask him out! Chances are, if you like him, he likes you. And in today's world, only a real prude or a true bigot would NOT go out with you because of your race. Go get him!
2006-11-06 12:37:33 · answer #1 · answered by robert r 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the approach - ask about his hobbies. Has he got a partner? The usual chit chat. Do not come on too strong, some men do not know how to handle it. By talking with him you will get the feel of his feelings for you which will then enable you to judge whether to approach or not.
I do not know where you live and work but in London no one would look at you both twice regardless of the racial mix. Why are you feeling so uncomfortable. Honey people are people regardless where they come from. Love life and live life to the max. Within reason though!!
2006-11-06 20:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more concerned about the co-worker issue, than the different ethnicity issue...when people who work together date, if issues come up in the relationship (or it ends) you've still got to go to work and probably see one another...it can be really tough not to let your personal life intrude on your job...
If you are comfortable that it wouldn't cause you a problem at work, then go for it...what's the worst that could happen? If he says no, things are no different than they are now but at least you wouldn't be left wondering "what if"...if he says yes then bonus plan!
2006-11-06 20:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not a problem and if you think it is you re only fooling yourself. You are attracted to him and his skin color shouldn't be an issue. Especially if you say you admire and respect him. That in itself should kind of behoove you to drop the color barrier all together. If stereotypes are what bring fear to you, even that cant be all true because you just said that you admire and respect him. I think if you don't ask him out it will only eat you up inside because you are very attracted to him. Second, it will drive you crazy because you will want him more and more and for no apparent reason limit yourself in having him in your life.Remember, he's a man first and you are attracted to a man. Not his skin color.
2006-11-06 20:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure why not?
Muts are sometimes pretty animals. You know, a Cocker Spanial mating with Irish Setter. You have an Irish Cocker, right? But a bulldog and a poodle? Hmmm, maybe you'll have a bulldoodle?
Me personally, I think full blooded lines, are worth more money. But that's just me. Or is it?
2006-11-06 20:38:42 · answer #5 · answered by 35 goodlookinmalefrombalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK first of all if your really into this guy it really should not matter what color he is.....color is only skin deep. just like it should not matter how good looking he is........beauty is only skin deep. i say ask him out, the worst thing that could happen is that he rejects you, then at least you would know. it should depend on how he treats you......that should be the only thing people should care about. sorry but that's my opinion about it. i hope this helps. good luck to you.
2006-11-06 20:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by joy m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the person then go for it! You can at least say you tried and did give an effort instead of being sad b.c you didnt go it!!
2006-11-06 20:38:44 · answer #7 · answered by Kat_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem, go for it !
Maybe a different religion or education, could be a problem in a long time relationship, but you should take your chances
2006-11-06 20:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by gone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it , worst case scenario he says no, you've got a 50/50 shot, I'd take those odds in any situation.
2006-11-06 20:38:13 · answer #9 · answered by brianlefttoe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it! Ethnicity shouldn't matter!
2006-11-06 20:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋