im so hurt and mad at the same time that my ex broke up with me, i want to hang out with this guy tomorrow nite that i have dated in the past, so i know him already which is cool, but im thinking to hang out with him in the area that i know my bf hangs out hoping he will see me and get mad, i mean i just want him to realize i dont need him and hes not the greatest thing cuz he thinks he is.
2006-11-06 12:21:07 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should put too much pepper on anything you cook for him, spill your nail polish on his floor, put gum in his hair, eat garlic and onions before you carry on a long conversation with him, leave his toilet seat down, tie his shoelaces together, put his hand in warm water as he sleeps (does that really work? ...find out), put ice cubes under his bedsheets, and put Palmolive dish soap on his toothbrush.
Those are much more fun than just using another man to make him jealous anyways!
2006-11-06 12:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by aanstalokaniskiodov_nikolai 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-05-06 04:21:38 · answer #2 · answered by Joshua 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why bother??? Your absence from where he generally hangs will be good for a while. Give it time. You show up now with someone your intentions are so obvious, he expects you to do this and he will swim in it, don't give him the pleasure..don't hang out where he hangs out....he won't get mad if he sees you with someone else, chances are he'll have a honey hanging on his arm just in case you show with a guy...you want to show him you don't need him???Disappear from his life for a few weeks, make him wonder what the heck you're doing and with who.....out of his radar chica. He will be looking for you. If at all possible go to another club that some of his friends frequent to be seen, but DON'T go where he hangs, it will speak volumes...if he doesn't see you,he will think you want to be secretive and it will burn his buns. Like your new man is too fine to define by the likes of him.....he won't be able to figure it out and probably look for you in the club his friends saw you dancing and having an intimate moment with the new man. One thing though don't use this guy, it will come back to haunt you, be cool to this dude whose taking you out. Oh and one more thing, when he starts to call, and he will, don't pick up and don't return his calls ( no matter how numerous) that will make him wonder beyond belief. You're back on top girl! Good luck.
2006-11-06 13:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get back at someone is to show your Independence from them. your right you dont need him, and therefore you dont need to show or prove anything to him. If it is going to be obvious to him or to anyone else that you are going to the place that he hangs out just to prove to him that you are an independent person then you will seem lame because obviously your world revolves around him. Lets take the focus off your ex and do what is best for your current situation. Finding a different boyfriend or enjoying single life. If you are with a guy you stand a chance of makeing him jealous but you run the risk of appearing relient on having a boyfriend or just doing it to make him mad. I recomend a girls night out because that shows you dont need men in general, him included. Promise yourself not to talk about your ex and focus on meeting some different people. still want to make him mad be happy the next couple weeks and in a couple days tell people about the enoumous freedom you didn't realize you were missing. Don't forget about the part where he was bad for you and that he was holding you back. badtalking him to your friends without being obvious will have lasting effects.
2006-11-06 12:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by silverwolf872005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want to get back at him? Life is too short -- think about everything you would be missing out on in the mean time!! Get on with your life -- that would show him you do not need him. Revenge is not what life is all about -- it is living in the past.
Yes, you hurt -- your feelings are hurt. And more so if you did not see it coming or were blind to all the hints, but why waste your time and your life trying to get back at him? It happens and no one likes it. Spend the time you would spend getting back at him by pampering yourself -- a candle light bubble bath, soft music.
And really, put yourself in the place of the other guy you want to use to get back at your exboyfriend. Either level with him straight up and let him know your plan or pay for your share of the night out. No one likes to be used either.
Of course, you could always start dating someone you are actually interested in dating . . .
2006-11-06 12:28:45 · answer #5 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just want to play some stupid game, then do what you are thinking. But remember, the best revenge is to live a good life. Why hurt someone who has hurt you? Will it make you feel better? If you want this guy back, don't hold your breath, for if he wanted you he'd be there.
But maybe there is more to the story. Let time ameliorate the hurt and go on with living a good life.
2006-11-06 12:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by kellenraid 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say do it, but don't hang around once u see him. Let him see you out having a good time and exit. He'll be wondering all night where u went. But.....be prepared to see him with someone else. Keep your composure, be classy and just exit with class. Avoid conversation with him, just a sweet little sincere smile and perhaps a little wave from the hip (from a distance). Then go have a great time on your date.
2006-11-07 20:42:02 · answer #7 · answered by T-Bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your feeling the need to "get back"
Q: why waste the energy?
- If he didn't care then he won't care now..
The best way to accomplish the two goals of healing and getting back is for you to just get on with your life.
- If you're with the old bf just to get back at the X, is that really fair to him?
The emotions you're feeling about the X will fade in time.. just let it happen.
2006-11-06 12:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha sounds like my ex so so much cockey prick!! I cant stand big headed men that brag about there bedroom performance.....anyway revenge is sweet ive done it twice, felt amazing and was able to move on just like that.
1. Slashed his wheels when he was on the way to see his new girl.....aaaaaa the look of dissapointment on his face when he realised he WONt be getting any that night priceless.
2. Got my amazingly gawjus mate that i knew he really really liked to play him along for a few weeks and then drop him like a hot rock!!
Your one doesnt sound harsh....but letting him know youve moved on is always a good thing, just dont make it to obvious that your trying to rub it in his face things could turn bitter.
2006-11-06 12:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah but bringing an ex around another ex is just asking for a fight to break out just go about your life and stay happy thats what will hurt him the most cause if your constantly tring to rub other guys in his face he will know that you are just doing in to get to him so he wont even show any interest in you
2006-11-06 12:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by joel t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up and realize that relationships come and go...you won't be hurting anyone by trying to get back at your ex but yourself, and the guy you "use" to try to get your revenge...
Treat other people as you want to be treated...would you want some guy to go out with you just to get to his ex girlfriend? Wouldn't that be rather offensive?
What goes around, comes around...when you behave poorly, you okay other people to behave poorly towards you...not to mention the consequences of your actions...
Be the bigger person...realize he just didn't dig you and that's okay...there will be other guys who will...just as you'll end up dating guys that you'll break up with...it's part of dating and being in relationships...move on...
Living well is the best revenge.
2006-11-06 12:25:59 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋