This person is crossing the line.....any ideas as to what to do?

Question

I'm still in high school (a senior) and am a pretty laid back person. But this guy keeps pushing it. In one of my classes we have assigned seats and I sit next to him. He's usually a cool guy but lately he's been crossing the line....saying things like "I want to f*ck you" and that's as polite as it gets. He's being sexual and I'm uncomfortable with it. I've just been trying to ignore him but that doesn't seem to be helping any. What would you do?

Sorry for the high school drama, but its a problem I have. Thanks for the help!

Answer 1

You need to tell your parents and your teacher. Hopefully the principal will get involved as well. There is no need for you to put up with this one moment more. Don't be shy to do something about it.

Answer 2

No need to apoligize there, that is a completely legitimate and serious problem. It sounds like this person is sexually harrassing you, because it is unwanted sexual connotations. You sound like someone who doesn't just go off and narch on someone, but you are smart enough to know when enough is enough. And I think this IS enough. It would seem like a 4th Grade thing to do to "snitch" on him, but I think instead of snitching you need to have a short, and to the point conversation with your teacher after class. Let them know what is going on, and tell them that you DON'T like it. Ask if they could possibly sneak up on him doing this next class, and "catch" him saying it, so he would get caught seemingly from a different perspective, and he wouldn't even think that you said anything. It's really tough in high school because everyone wants to save face, but problems DO need to be addressed. Also, don't be afraid to ask your teacher for the best plan of action. They in most cases will know what to do, and know how to handle it without making it seem like you are a snitch. Good luck to you, I know it can be hard.

Answer 3

You do not have to take that ****. Go report his *** right away. Don't you have any brothers, or a dad. It may seem like 'not a big deal' but no woman should have to put up with that kind of abuse (and it is abuse) just because you happen to be born with a vagina. Besides protecting your self you need to get it on record. If anything (God forbid) happens, at least it is documented, the character of the individual. Plus you could red flag a potentially dangerous individual. Call attention to the situation, It is your right to feel safe and comfortable.

Answer 4

This is a serious situation. Do not think in any way that this a situation that you are overeacting on. This is against the law and his behavior and actions are designed to degrade and humiliate you and take away all your power. Do not let him. Tell your parents, a teacher you trust, a guidance counselor, your school principal, however you have to. This guy is not your friend.
Stop this now before it gets worse

Answer 5

If he is just bothering you in this one class, get the teacher to remove you from that seat, and find you a new one accross the room. If its daily, in the halls or whatever, I would have to go to a teacher. Sexual harrassment in the school is just as bad as in the workplace. You can warn him too if you dont want to do that right away. Tell him leave you alone, you have had enough, and your going to tell someone.

Answer 6

This is definitely a problem and needs to be reported each time it happens. If it continues, this consitutes sexual harassment. But, you must report each time he does it. To be harassment, there needs to be a continuing pattern. If you just wait and then report all the instances at once, its your word against his. If you report each instance as it happens, a pattern is established for harassment. Most school districts are very impatient with sexual harassment at this point. Do not put up with this kind of behavior.

Answer 7

This isn't cool, for sure.
This guy is sexually harrassing you.
First, tell him that it's inappropriate and you want him to stop. Make sure you mention that you feel it's sexual harrassment.
If he doesn't stop, ask the teacher to talk to him. Or another school official, like the principal.
Then ask the teacher to assign you to another seat.

Answer 8

I would recommend you talking to your teacher in private and seeing if your teacher will move you to another seat. If they don't do anything that you feel comfortable about, I would recommend even talking to your counselor or principle. You shouldn't have to deal with this on your own and you have a right to feel comfortable at school. Just keep in mind, if your teacher or other school authorities don't do the proper thing, they can get in big trouble!

Answer 9

Dont say sorry! That is a real problem! Talk to your teacher about a new seat and tell them why. If they dont listen go to the principle, counselor, your parents or pastor until someone does listen. A bad thing happened to me in high school and it started just like that.....BE CAREFUL

Answer 10

This person isn't just crossing the line, more like breaking the law. Report this to your principal immediately and consider lawyering up because you might have a juicy lawsuit against this moron. In the event no one believes you, bring a micro-recorder to your class and tape him.

Answer 11

Sounds to me like you better be very careful of this guy. I would tell him to stop or you will report him for sexual harrasement. If he continues, take a small tape recorder to school and tape him saying those things to you. Then let him know you have recorded him and are pressing charges. This guy could potentially be a sex offender. Beware!!!