Alright before I found he likes another girl I asked him to Sadie Hawkins that's when he told me he already had a date and that's when I told him I liked him
2006-11-06 12:13:49 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he has already made his choice, then I think that you should leave it alone. I think you should put yourself into her situation and think about if you would like some other girl pushing up on your date. If they are not in a relationship, I guess he is available, but don't try to do anything at the dance because will already be together then. If after the dance he decides to talk to you, then go from there.
2006-11-06 12:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch! If it's any comfort, we've all had these kind of "oh...yeah..." moments.
Well, you've already told him you like him, and he's already told you that he likes someone else and is going to the dance with her, so this isn't your standard "how do I get him to notice me?" situation.
What you want to do, even though it seems counter-intuitive, is to back off a bit. Not all the way, but definitely a bit. See, you've told him you like him and he didn't say that he likes you, so continuing to pursue him at this point marks you as someone who doesn't recognize "no" when she hears it.
Which doesn't mean it's hopeless, just that you don't want to be:
> obsessive
> desperate
> tacky.
So you back off a bit - friendly but no more than that. "Hi" when you see him. "How are you?" when it seems appropriate/natural. As though you were trying to get to know him as a possible friend, not a possible date. You ask someone else, someone you might like to get to know better, as in, "I thought it might be fun if we went to the dance together, if you're still available."
At the dance, you spend time with anyone who seems interesting, including your date, and chat with Guy #1 if you see him. You relax and have a good time, since you don't have to impress Guy #1, who already has a date.
Meanwhile, you also get to know other guys, and date any who seem interesting and you might want to know better. You keep the lines of communication open with Guy #1 without pushing - if he decides at some point that you're date material, he'll let you know.
'Cause your objective is really to get to know lots of people, figure out who likes you for you, and spend time with them. Guy #1 might turn out to be one of those people - only time will tell - but someone else definitely will be. Good luck!
2006-11-06 20:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply you don't
you will most likely mess up any chance of him liking you ever.
you be nice and courteous to him and his friends, but don't do it in the hope of winning him, you might not ever "win" him.
It will give you a chance to meet other nice guys, they won't like you if you get a reputation for "breaking" other people up.
You have told him you like him, it really is up to him now.
2006-11-06 20:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Abbasangel 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Girl.....answer yourself the same question....how can someone that your not fond of, make you like them more? It's either you do, or you don't. I'd much rather have someone like me because they do....anything else would be betrayal!
2006-11-06 20:24:14 · answer #4 · answered by l_a_k_lowe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you try to win over a guy?? If he likes you good and if he doesnt well than it wasnt meant to be....
2006-11-06 20:18:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm. id try just being friends with him 1st. dont feel like you can get this guy overnight.
2006-11-06 20:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋