Me and my fiance' are expecting a little boy. we agreed early on that we was going to name him Torry being that my fiance' wants all his boys named after him. Now for some unknown reason I don't want to name my son Torry. How should I go about the situation, should i tell him I don't like Torry anymore or just name the kid Torry.
2006-11-06 12:05:31 · 24 answers · asked by 2sexy4u 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
The kid is not the only one who has to live with the name you choose. You will have to be faced with hearing and saying the name every day. several times a day, even if you gotta yell it. Do what is most comfortable, nameing him after daddy isnt so bad.. we thought we were going to have a boy, and since my husband is named after his father, and his father named for his father, and so on i think... we were going to name him after his father... thankfully it turns out it will be a girl, which solves our problem but not yours... but.... really, do whats comfortable. If you dont like having your husband and son named the same, then dont! Get a baby name book, and look it over for the next few weeks, dont share names... get a list together at the end of a few weeks and pick middle names with the last name, and go from there.... YOU will be the one stuck with it, so do what YOU want, daddy will get over it. If you need an excuse to not name him after daddy just say you dont want to scream your sons name durning sex... he'll understand. Good luck and hope it works out. Congrats!!
2006-11-06 12:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Holly M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this one. Why repeat a name? Why shouldn't your son be an individual, with his very own name? It'll only get confusing when you call Torry and both of them turn around. Tell your fiance that as much as you love his name, you want him to keep it because the only person you want to think about when you say Torry, is him. Tell him, you want to come up with an original name that you both came up with together. A name you both created, a name you'll both love. :) Hope this helped.
2006-11-06 12:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by lily 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can compromise and have Torry as the middle name. Or do like my husband and I did, my name is Elizabeth and I wanted to be able to call my daughter Libby which is also a nickname for Elizabeth but i didn't want to name her after me or just Libby so we came up with Liberty. maybe you can find a name that you both like with Torry being a nickname. Good luck! Happy naming!
2006-11-06 12:09:50 · answer #3 · answered by scottliz2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants all his boys to be names Torry???? Is there an ego issue going on here that you need to address? Bottom line....this is your child...both his and yours ...you both need to find a name that pleases BOTH of you. If you do decide to name this one Torry...after his dad, then be very upfront that he only gets one namesake...Torry Jr's brothers should have their own name. I am curios....does Torry (your fiance) have any other sons from previos relationships? If so...if any of them are named Torry.....then noooooooooooo noooooooooooo noooooooooooo!!! Your son deserves his very own identity. Good Luck.
2006-11-06 12:23:31 · answer #4 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it. Offer to give the boy Torry as his middle name and come up with some first names you like better. It should be a mutual decision - after all it is your baby too. Personally I don't like giving kids the same name as their parent (dad). My husband's half-brother was a named after his father and he actually stole his dad's identity, about $5000 from his bank account, screwed up his credit, and ended up in prison later when his father turned him in. I think kids should be able to have their own identity - after all they aren't a little mini-me. I am sure you have your own personal reasons to change the name, and you should definitely talk to him about it!!!
2006-11-06 12:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's white then name the boy Torry. You know how fathers get. They love love there little boys. BE NICE GIVE THE MAN WHAT HE WANTS :)
2006-11-06 12:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Weequahic high 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband you will settle for the middle name to be torry. if you dont want to hurt his feelings just avoid the whole thing by just naming the baby after him! it aint a bad name. you always have the next baby boy to name whatever. . . . . hope that helps!
2006-11-06 12:13:28 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo_onecutegal_xoxo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suggest it as a middle name?
Torry is like Tory which a name for a member of the conservative party in England.
Just discuss it with him, you are allowed to change your mind ;-)
2006-11-06 12:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be that now after all the work you are going through to carry the baby, the name appeals less to you? Or as you are getting a feel for the child, the name seems wrong?
I personally think it is silly to name kids (particularly all of them) after the father or mother. I mean, I can understand wanting to honor your parents or grandparents with the name you choose, but it seems a bit egotistical to name them for either parent. Of course, I don't know you or your fiance', that is just my opinion.
The name of your child is something that you are going to have live with for the rest of your life. I would speak now or forever hold my peace - or come up with a nickname that I would call him no matter what his name on paper is.
Peace!
2006-11-06 12:09:44 · answer #9 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him. You don't want to have four kids named torry do you?
2006-11-06 12:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by los 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋