started as on/off relationship.i was dumping him bc he didn't give a **** about my feelings.after i took a 5month break with him,the arguing was worse.then i moved on with 2guys,but he wanted a relationship again.then i confronted him about staring at another girl @ library,n he dumped me.then after awhile,he wanted to try a relationship again(this time i didnt answer,but he took the silence as a yes).after we made out,i wouldn't give him head(he didn't say anything but i knew he was expectin it),n he dumped me.then he wanted 2 take a romantic walk thru campus,n wanted a relationship AGAIN.once again,i didn't answer bc i'm tired of the drama.next day we made out and same thing happened.i didn't give him head n he "dumped" me.then his crush called n he left to eat dinner with her.but she's plain(not cute at all) n i'm so much better looking (i'm being dead honest).y is he so nice to her and mean to me?why does he go back and forth?why is he such a jerk?why won't he get his act together?
2006-11-06 11:55:35 · 8 answers · asked by samoa s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it is hard, but don't always be the first to put the blame. Many times women tend to look into a situation too much. If you are both insecure the relationship will fail. If he feels you do not care for him there is no reason for him to respect you. Number one, always treat you partner the way you want them to treat you. It is 50 / 50 you cannot expect him to change if you are not willing to change yourself.
From personal experience. If you can talk to him and you both feel it can work try compramising. Tell him if he does something that hurts you, let him know and then move on. Do not dwell in the moment, state how you feel and let it go. If he does not feel like you should have your feelings hurt chances are he didn't mean what he did or said the way you inturpreted it. I have done this numerous times. And I have a man who is completely honest with me, when I was a lil crazy he just ignored me and I felt terrible. I began to realize what upset me and think if it was dumb. Now I can just laugh at myself and he is very happy now because he can joke and be honest to me even if he has a chance of hurting me. He knows I will understand, I won't freak out and yell, but I may get upset. He knows he can talk to me because even if I get upset I still have his feelings before my own.
One big thing to remember you can only be yourself. Be kind and conciderate to each other. If you both show equal concideration, but retain your feelings and opinions there is no reason you should stay mad. Just state how you fell then continue your day. Not evey disagreement needs an apology, just acceptance.
If you need more advice please post again! God Bless!!
2006-11-06 12:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by Hillary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I'm misunderstood and when they don't find me interesting or don't want to know my opinion on something. I also hate being lied to. Sun Scorpio, Moon Aquarius, Mars Scorpio, Mercury Sagittarius, and Venus Libra
2016-05-22 05:35:14 · answer #2 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to be mean, but, he's not the one that needs to get his act together. You're letting him play you and he knows it! He's just keeping you around because he knows that he can get something from you. He's nice to the other girl because he respects her. He does not respect you so don't even go there. You need to leave him and find someone that will treat you right. And, you need to make yourself less easy to play.
2006-11-06 12:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by S. Elizabeth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him!!! He's playing you. Who knows why he is such a jerk....he's what's called narcicistic (sp?).... and you can't have a healthy relationship with someone like that....he will do nothing but cause you heartache....
2006-11-06 12:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by Vanity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the one thats need to get their act together. He's got his act together. He gets what he wants to get.
2006-11-06 12:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to u is, why the hell are taking this crap from him?
He sounds like all he wants from u is head and when he doesn't get it, he wants to bouce....so LET HIM!
2006-11-06 12:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He treats you like that because you let him! Stand up for yourself!
2006-11-06 12:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT A WISHY WASHY DIPSHYT HE IS,,BUT UR STUPID ENOUGH TO KEEP TAKING IT
2006-11-06 11:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋