i dont have a steady boyfriend but i cassually have sex. I dont know if i ever felt one cause i dont even have an idea of what its like. Im worried ill never get to feel it.
2006-11-06 11:53:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay... this is going to go against some people's personal beliefs...(and it is MY belief that they are lying about this subject) but honey, get to know yourself (if ya know what I mean). God made your arms just long enough to reach the good spots... If that seems a bit awkward for you, buy a shower massager... and aim that gentle massage in the right spot. It is alright to explore your own body. It is not shameful, it is not a bad thing... you won't go blind. If you are having casual sex, it probably isn't happening because you don't have a partner who cares whether or not you have an orgasm. A real man will take his time and make sure you are satisfied either before or after he gets his (depending on how long he can hold out his own orgasm)...
Good luck!
2006-11-06 12:00:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
With the amount of information around on the subject, you should be loaded with information on what to do to acheive an orgasm.
There's very little space here for me to explain the steps, but the first one is masturbation. Masturbation is the first step in pleasuring yourself and what you like. This way you'll be able to identify your "soft spots" that will eventualy set you off like a gyser. Masturbation also teaches you to appreciate and LOVE yourself as a sexual being (which is a large part of being human).
Next thing you would learn from all that is that you don't have casuall sex just to get an orgasm. It may be in some cases, but even the casual sex encounter should be filled with many levels of pleasure. In otherwords, don't do it as a job. Do it because your responsible (first) and you ENJOY it.
If this doesn't work and there's a problem beyond the physical, you should consult with a therapist to get to the bottom of it.
Nothing kills a person more than not having a pleasurable experience in sex.
Go to it kid.
2006-11-06 12:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 11:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by staves 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've had sex with competent, intelligent men, you've had an orgasm. If they were jerks and insensitive to your needs then, you might not have. Girls naturally take longer to reach climax then men. If they just hump-hump and hop off, then you aren't going to feel crap. If it's really that important to you to have an orgasm, I recommend an escort service (hot men, little bit of money, nice experience) or masturbation (even less money, you know how you want to be treated).
2006-11-06 11:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by incubus71089 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sexual health book I got for my 21st B-day (go figure), says the female should use the finger with a lubricant to stimulate the clitoris. If possible, this should be done while receiving the penis in the vagina during slow and long thrusts.
2006-11-06 11:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you would definitely know if you'd had one. Some women are unable to have an orgasm through vaginal sex and sometimes you can't rely on someone else to give you an orgasm. Try getting to know your body and what your hot buttons are.
2006-11-06 11:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by kiffmekl1979 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe me you would know it if you had ever had one. The only thing I can tell you is to try to achieve it through masturbation. I am 27 and I have never had one with a man but I have been able to accomplish it by myself. Good luck.
2006-11-06 11:56:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy yourself a vibrator. It's easier to have an orgasm with a man once you've taught yourself to have one in the first place. Have a glass of wine first and relax and then go at it! ;)
2006-11-06 11:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by SheRa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that you don't have any idea what its like but yet your friends talk about it all the time. Ask them what it feels like. And when you do have one you will know because its like a sudden feeling of explosion.
2006-11-06 11:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by DHWJulie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've had one you would've known. I think many women never experience one ...from a man ;-). So, dont thikn its just you or somethings wrong with you.
2006-11-06 11:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋