How do you deal with tantrums?

Question

My son is only 19 months and has hit his terrible twos. He only says "no"- to everything! he throws tantrums all day long - I am losing my mind- it seems all i do is disapline him.

Answer 1

Send him to his room, make sure it is child proof. Tell him he
needs to stay in his room until he feels better. If you don't start
now, then as he gets older he will act up even more. If he is
acting up in the store then take him out right away. Stay out of
the store until he decides to be good. Tell him if he doesn't act
right then he can not go back into the store. And if he still doesn't
want to straighten up then take him home, NO MEANS NO. He
needs to understand that you are not going to tolerate with his
behavior. When my daughter was 4yrs. old, she would have
tantrums at home, but she was good when we went out to the
store. But at home I would send her to her room and she was
not able to come out until I said it was okay for her to come out.
I would just ignore her and she cried and kicked like someone
was abusing her. And believe it or not someone did call the
police and social worker on me thinking that I was abusing her.
They stripped her to the T and found out she had NO bruises.
Anyways I told her that she was a brat and she didn't want to take NO for an answer. So they left apologizing. My grand-daughter does the same thing and we do the same thing send her to her room, she is only 3 yrs. old. My other grand-daughter
is only 10 months and she checks out her older sister and she
too started throwing herself back and with her we just use a
firm tone of voice. Actually we use it on both. This way they know
that we mean business. Don't give their way, they'll get you every
time. Don't treat them with sweets cause they will act up just
to get a treat if you say " If your good I'll give you a candy or a toy.
No, thats a NO, NO!! Never give in to your child. Only treat them
when it is just because. You can tell them they are doing good
this way they see your attitdue has changed because their behavior. You want them to see the nice in you too as well as
you anger. And I don't mean Yelling either, just talk to them in
a firm way. They need to tell which is the disapline voice and
which is the happy side.

Answer 2

There are different ways of dealing with tantrums, whichever one you choose you need to be consistent and persistent if it is to work. If the child is not hurting himself, ignoring is effective with some children (not all of them), but it gets worse before it gets better. You could try this: When he starts the tantrum (if youre at home), take him by the hand to the bathroom (even if you have to carry him) and explain that he can cry here. If he leaves, take him back. Stay close, but dont "interrupt" his tantrum once he's in the bathroom.. This way you remove the "audience" and the whole purpose of the tantrum, which is to manipulate you. You can also read The Other 23 Hours - a book for child care workers, but it has a very good section on tantrums.

Answer 3

I walk away from the tantrums and place myself away from my daughter so she can't really see me but I can still see her. Usually she'll stop as the tantrum is just a cry for attention. If she doesn't stop after a few minutes I'll move myself a little closer to her and sit down on the floor with a magazine or something else to occupy myself with. This way she can see me and I am still not giving her attention in response to the negative behavior. I then give it a few minutes more and I'll ask her if she is finished and usually she'll look at me and say yes. Then I ask her if she wants a hug and she'll come on over to me and crawl into my lap and we cuddle for a bit.

It seems to work most of the time....I think the tantrums are out of frustration since she is learning to talk and she wants attention. Hope this is helpful!

Answer 4

When my 2 year-old son start to throw a tantrum I sternly tell him no and if he keeps at it I strap him in his booster chair and put him in the corner for a couple of minutes. Be consistant. If you tell him he is going to be punished for something you need to follow through or he will think you are a pushover. When my son starts now I'll ask him if he needs to sit in the corner and he will say no and I tell him that if he is good then he doesn't have to. If he is hitting his head on the floor or the wall I tell him he is not hurting anyone but himself and I turn around and walk off and he stops.

Answer 5

put him on the naughty step for 1 minute ( 1 minute for each yr of his age) tell him what hes done wrong u have to explain it to him other whise he wont know why he has been put there if he doesnt stay on the step put him back on and start the time again. then when he has sat on the step for a whole minute tell him to say sorry and give him a cuddle and kiss. its important you do that so he feels loved. but dont aslways put him on the step before he gets a tantrum try getting his mind of it and distract him with something. oh and watching things like supernanny which is on i think mondays at nine on channel 4 might help you a little too. good luck.

Answer 6

Ignoring the tantrums, just pretend he isn't acting out at all. You can also try throwing a tantrum yourself, throw yourself on the floor or couch, yell and whine, believe it or not this actually works with a lot of kids.

Answer 7

1st of all, i don't have teenagers, yet I do safeguard a three year previous considering he grew to become right into one million year previous. This baby is quite good willed, and could often save on with something till he gets it, or he's familiar with that there is not any way. I even have come to appreciate him properly adequate to be waiting to tell apart between a "naughty" tantrum and a "drained" tantrum. while it particularly is a "drained" tantrum, I purely take him to mattress, explaining to him why he can't have what he needs, on a similar time as comforting him and telling him I understand why he's so annoyed. This often does the trick. while it particularly is a "naughty" tantrum, i'm very employer in telling him why he cant have what he needs. i bypass to him, bend right down to his point and look him interior the attention on a similar time as chatting with him. I clarify to him precisely what he ought to attain this as to get what he needs (if there's a particular time that he can do/get it, e.g. gazing television or if he can do something particular e.g consume his greens earlier he could have a cookie) or why it particularly is impossible for him to get/do what he needs. no count if it particularly is something that he can artwork for or ought to await, he could have/do it while the standards are met. no count if it particularly is something it particularly is thoroughly impossible i attempt to concentration his interest on something else, and if that doesn't artwork, I make confident he can't harm himself, and purely ignore with reference to the screams. i stumble on that explaining issues to him is particularly effective. And explaining to him what he can assume while in uncharted waters, reduces tantrums dramatically.

Answer 8

My son is 16 months and he throws tantrums as well. I ignore him, and when he realizes that he's not getting a reaction he just stops. It's amazing how quickly they can turn off the theatrics. When he's done, we go about our business as if nothing happened.

Answer 9

I agree with julie. Time out is the best thing I have ever come across. I purchased an egg timer and put my kids in time out. Your boy is 1 1/2 so give him a two minut time out. Put him there. Then when time out is over, talk to him and make sure he knows why he was there. Give it a few tries, he will son learn to just go there and do his time.

Answer 10

If you can handle the crying just let him throw the tantrum. Eventually he will get the message that crying won't get him what he wants and he will stop. Don't let him do what he wants to do until he does what you want him to do.