well friday night online, some guy asked me to come over and hook -up we are really good friends and at first i thouhg he was kidding. but he wasnt. i wanted to go over so i could just hook up but then i didnt becuase i didnt like him like that. i ended up not going over because i thought it was a bad idea. i started to gain feelings for him over the weekend but then thia afternoon he told me what happend on friday was really weird and he didnt know y he wanted to hook up. i wanna know if he was just syaing that so thing wouldn;t be weird or he really feels this way? help. im so confused. oh and by the way im 16 and we are really good friends.
2006-11-06 11:39:44 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When someone wants to hook up it means that they want to do whatever that night and possibly never do anything again.
It is NOT a relationship, after you're done doing whatever you are doing (kissing, petting, even sex) it may not happen again and if it does it'll only be for the same thing you did before or more.
If you want a relationship where it is only sexual, thats great, but the more you do it, the more likely one or both of you are going to catch feelings.
2006-11-06 11:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kid A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, Here it is. He wanted you there either because he was bored, alone or he thought or hoped whatever about you. The thing you need to think about is you. Your instinct kept you home Friday night, follow that, it is always right. It's built in to all of us, we just don't listen most the time as teens, we have other things trying to take us off course. You are the most important person to consider. He is playing and if I were you I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of playing his game, you are way too young. You need to be thinking about your future and how you want your life to be. That means, what do I want for myself? Am I going to college? Do I want to be self suffecient and not depend on anyone until I meet the right man, not boy? Do I have the grades I need? Is he really all that? Meaning if you do get involved, emotionally or otherwise will I still be able to do what I want to do or am I risking my future to spend time with someone that isn't really all that interested? Someone that will use me and not care?If I were you I'd concentrate on my life and future and in a few years you will be ready to think about the man thing, he'll come along when you least expect it. He'll be involved in something that you have an interest in because by then you'll have an idea what you want. He'll be focused and better equipped mentally to have a real relationship. He won't be a boy, but hopefully a mature man. They are about 2 yrs. behind girls emotionally anyway. Most of them. So, don't worry about this one. He's not the catch of the day. You are though, I have that feeling and you can do much better. Don't play his game and ignore him. Concentrate on yourself and your future, too many things to mess it up with a guy like him. OK? OK.Good night baby girl.
2006-11-06 12:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you've met him in real life!!!
Maybe one day just ask him to hang out.
2006-11-06 11:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He want to have sex with you. Don't you see that. Why would he say that.
2006-11-06 11:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋