i am 22 and talked to my mom today and she told me that her and my dad are gonna get different apartments. She said that they are headed different ways in life so they are not mad or anything about eachother just cant live together. Why am i so hurt at 22 but i know i am gonna bottle it.
my family is a mess my dad abused me when i was younger and denied it my mom believed him and now this 4 years later.
2006-11-06 11:37:22 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are so hurt because a dream or fantasy has been completely destroyed, and that is hard on a heart. Do not bottle it up inside, but rather, talk about it with a friend and try to understand what went wrong in their relationship so you can learn from it and not repeat the mistakes.
You have endured some tough times, and now there will be tow families. I hope that someday you are able to ask your mom why she sided with your dad and did not stick up for you. I think inside you need to someday know the reasons. It could be she was afraid, but I think you need to hear it from her. If you can communicate, you can forgive, and life will change.
2006-11-06 11:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of hurt in the world and you have been dealt the hardest blow of all. The people you want to be there to protect you have told you they are not a team anymore. You need to heal yourself. Good luck, get all the help you can, talk to people, talk to professional people and talk to your parents.
2006-11-06 20:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by folklore 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes no difference how old you are. My parents split after 33 years of marriage. This was when I was 31. It threw me for a loop. We'd like to think our parents are role models and I think we set them at higher standards than other people. So, when they go through something like this, it shatters our illusion we had of them. That is my take on it anyway.
2006-11-06 19:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your so hurt because their your parents and you don't want them to depart. Although they might have hurt you early on, they are the people that raised you. They supported you and were always there for you. Now the thing that you never wanted to happen is happening, even though you don't realize it.
2006-11-06 19:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by urashortie103092 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you mom did believe you but stayed with him until you were old enough to handle the truth and now that you are hurt your mom knows that she can start the process for both of you. good luck and enjoy
2006-11-06 19:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by john_borst2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok not everyone can handle it well...it does get hard and i understand completely what your going through...it just takes time to adjust to things, that is of course when you do adjust to it. some people can accept the fact of divorce, i know i still cant but there isnt much to do about it but accept it and try to move on...
2006-11-06 19:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by drea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to a therapist. Sometimes it can be nice to talk to someone.
2006-11-06 19:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by rustygrapevineyard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad **** happens
2006-11-06 19:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by labonitameli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋