All my life my mother has favored my younger brother. I am 14 so I am usually not up for anyone being mean to me. She says that I am obessed with the computer when really I only spend at most 2 hours on it everyday. I don't have any really good friends and I think that is making my life worse. My mom is not letting me go anywhere with the people from my church as a punishment. (She doesn't go to chruch but I do.) She even told me that I couldn't get of Yahoo! Answers anymore. Do you know any sites were I could chat with some other teens that could help me? Or Do you have any advice for me?
2006-11-06 11:10:03 · 16 answers · asked by actresst22 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are truely depressed you should speak with someone. Friend, mom, counselor, pastor, someone. Depression can affect your health and well-being. Get help.
2006-11-06 11:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you have a good resource at hand, other church members. They are a support group all the time. It could be that your mom is suspect of you on the net, because of all the stuff parents hear about monitoring the child's use of the computer. Maybe you an show her the history of the computer to show her all the sites you visit and explain how the sites work, etc. Openness and honesty are a must for getting to the bottom of a problem.
2006-11-06 11:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get out of the house, take a break off the computer for a little, computer is okay to chat but you need to get some social skills with people around you, not online. It is fun to sit on the answers but how many answers can you do a day get what i am saying. Get out of the house and get some social activity going. Tell your mom that you are going to take a break from the comp, and that you want to socialize with your friends at church. That way she will see that you are something and that you want to change for the better. the comp is cool but if you don't have social skills then there is a problem.
2006-11-06 11:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Nattiedred 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say to try an prove to your mom that you're not on the computer all of the time. Document the time that you're on it and then show her that you've been documenting it. If you are on it all the time, it's her fault for letting you. She's the parent and should be still telling you when to get off if she thinks you've been on it way too long. Just try to show her that you care about other things then the computer. If you can, try to get a hold of your youth pastor and have her talk to them. Maybe you guys can all sit down together and talk and work things out. Best of all if you're depressed. Pray!!
2006-11-06 11:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how my mom and I fought when i was your age. The way your mom is is that you are her baby and she doesn't want you to grow up anymore then you already have. When i was your age it was hard to be in the same room with her. You just need to stick it out. Maybe you should try and talk with her the way you are feeling. If that doesn't work then just mind your own business... I am now 20 and I live on my own... When i go visit my mom i still see that my little brother is still her favorite but now i am more mature and see that she really did and always will care about me and she really didn't want me to grow up!
Just be strong and try and stick it out! I am here for you! good luck!
2006-11-06 11:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with your mother, she is really looking out for you with the internet , there is to much trouble for young teen's, so many older people are trying to play as they are young and I think your mom just does not want you getting hurt.
Also get more involed in school stuff, and church is good .it does not make your mom a bad person for not going. and if you enjoy chating on the internet then you should sit down with your mom and have her look at myspace.com it is all teenagers .
Try to understand your mom , but also try and make her recall what it was like when she was a kid your age
best of luck and keep safe on here
2006-11-06 11:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by asnowbird1961 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what it feels like being the person who does not get any love in the family and u feel like your whole world is falling on your shoulders but let me tell you ..... STAY IN CHURCH, try to do something that will help you feel free even if its for a moment like sports or something and remember that COMMUNTICATION is important. Your mom might treat you the same if you don't at least try to talk to her and using chat lines are not effective because the some people can lead you in the worng path. Have you ever tried to bring your mom to church?
2006-11-06 11:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by schania532 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just hold tight for as long as you can. Then when it comes times that you can seem to be able to hold in the emotions any longer, then you should just ask your mom what the deal is and why you can't hang out with people from your church. Parents are always bound to give you a reason. Good luck.
2006-11-06 11:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all, keep going to church. 2 hours a day might be too long on the computer. i definately dont advise chat rooms. that could be dangerous. try to be active in school weather it be sports, cheerling, drama, or another club.
pray about it, and be very involved in your church. make sure your going to the church you really enjoy going to.
2006-11-06 11:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by hlc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at a vulnerable age where you take a lot of things that are said to you to heart. She cares about you a lot, you are equal to your brother. You won't be 14 forever. Before you know it you'll be employed and living under your own roof. Your Mum loves you, it just seems like she is being hard on you, and she doesn't want to lose you. Keep smilin.
2006-11-06 11:15:48 · answer #10 · answered by jammer 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
http://www.dbsalliance.org is the Depression and Bipolar Alliance. They have local phone #s and support groups that you can attend. Perhaps your Pastor could speak with your mother and help iron it out, it sounds like you need a mediator.
http://www.feelinggood.com
Dr David Burns is a world famous authority on depression. "The Feeling Good Book" is the best help you can get!
Could you volunteer to get out of the house?
http://www.volunteermatch.org will help you find something suitable that is close.
http://www.teenrelationships.org
Can help with the social angle.
http://www.mentalhelp.net covers a wide variety of topics. Like family.
http://www.webmd.com is written by doctors for laymen.
http://www.wikipedia.org has articles about anything in multiple languages.
http://www.khake.com/page47 can help with math homework and good grades make parents more reasonable.
http://www.think.com is a project of Oracle Corp, free, to help with homework and projects.
http://www.comedycentral.com is good for laughs!!
I hope that does you some good! You have to deal with your Mom, and later on it will be guys, bosses, your kids, hubby, the dog and cat...got to learn to deal, try to see things as the person whom you are talking to sees them, and listen actively, and ask questions...the clouds may part.
It has happened in history.
Okay?
2006-11-06 11:27:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋