Doesn't matter what you ask or tell him to do he has a comment or complaint. Or he acts like he didn't even hear you tell him something. What are some suggestions for for alternatives to choking the life out of him.
2006-11-06 11:04:34 · 10 answers · asked by doug_usmc_0311 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
This is what my parents did and this is what i did with my son who is now in th Air Force... 3 strikes.. strike one) home straight from school no games no videos no fiends no cell, for two weeks...strike two) same as above for one month strike three old fashion spanking ( the area form mid-thigh to the rump.. no legs no back or any other part of the body.. about 6 swats) to the room.. no treats (candy no deserts).... you have to take the upper hand.... it worked with me and it worked for my son... by the way my son and i are very close we talk all the time and he thanks me for his upbringing especially when he encounters young adults who got away with talking back to their parents...he has a step- father whom also disciplined him and he respects us both.... Good luck
2006-11-06 11:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by Andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everytime he talks back he needs to have a consequence. Make sure the consequence is fitting. Don't be too hard on him. Gain his trust and respect!! The true key is consistency. You can't let him think it's acceptable even once! Make sure you acknowledge when he doesn't talk back and praise him for what he does good. One of the most important steps in discipline is the acknowlegement and rewards that most people forget to do, especially when something is a big problem. Try a reward system. He's 6, so some sort of chart (let him decorate it himself) would probably work well. You can do a daily reward for not talking back or weekly. Let him help decide what the reward will be and what the consequences will be that way they truely understand.
2006-11-06 11:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by dil7827 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Punish him, teach him some manners. If he talks back, send him to his room with no tv or cell phone or video games. As a matter of fact, take that stuff from him right now. Tell him that he will get one thing back a week as long as he is respectful. If he acts up, then take his things back. If he continues, just keep taking his favorite things away and give one back a week as long as he is being respectful. If there's nothing left to take and he's still acting up, then ground him. Respect goes both ways, if you tell him your gonna do something, whether it's a promise or punishing him, then keep your word. If you don't keep your word, then he won't take you seriously, and as a result, he won't respect you as the head of the household. Remember, you're the parent, not him. That's the biggest problem with parents these days, they let their kids walk all over them thinking it's only a phase in the child's life, they are wrong. the human brain can only learn what it's taught. This last thing I said is not directed at you but at parents in general. Good luck.
2006-11-06 11:21:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he act this way when you and his mother were dating?
How long have you been married? It could be to him, you are usurping his place as the "man" of the house if you recently married his mom, (at least less than 6 months). Even if you had been dating for long time, to him you are the interloper in his world.
Until he can be reassured that even though you are going to be a part of their life for a long time, he is going to test you.
What you could do if he does not do as you ask or tell him to do, don't ask no more than two times, after the second time, let him know there will be a consequence, take away a privilege for a few days.
2006-11-06 14:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by allusnine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you don't have control! Since he is only 6, I totally disagree with physical punishment, like a pat on the butt, unless you first try explaining things, and use removal of games or TV for short periods of time to get his attention. He needs to understand YOU are the parent, and must follow rules, and/or at LEAST talk respectfully to you. It's ok to not like your rules, it's ok to tell you he doesn't like them, but HOW he tells you is the problem, not the communication!
Also, have you considered that he may have issues with you? Perhaps a good "dig" into WHY he is acting out is in-line?
2006-11-06 11:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Life after 45 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes this is tough, but instead of calling him "the step son" try calling him son. This is the first step. Then once you have gained enough strength for yourself then take charge of him. You are the gaurdian that will have to teach him alot. be strict. If he does not want to listen then place him in time out until he wants to hear what you have to say. I have a 4 and 5 year olds and I went to walmart and purchased two white egg timers. "Time out" is a great form of disapline. especially if you are a non-spanker like myself. But for the first few times just put him there until he wants to talk to you and listen to what you have to say. Then talk to him at his level. Tell him you are tired of him not obeying and if he wants to continue then he will see alot of the time out area.(normally a boring place, corner, in the hall) good luck and hope that this advise will give you a little support.
2006-11-06 11:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Choking the life out of his biological parents for allowing him to get like that? Kind of funny, but . . . . really.
2006-11-06 16:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sera B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the step son thats the problem come to. remeber hes still 6 so hes still like any other kid first u gotta win the kids respect by getting close to him been more for him play with him. maybe theres something wrong with him.
2006-11-06 11:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by jose m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dr. Phil or NANNY 911!!
2006-11-06 11:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by love2eat422 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
make him go barefoot in public
2006-11-06 11:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by get it 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋